Hey, Mom! The Explanation.

Here's the permanent dedicated link to my first Hey, Mom! post and the explanation of the feature it contains.

Thursday, December 1, 2016

Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #513 - East Tawas Point 8-11-1963




Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #513 - East Tawas Point 8-11-1963 - Photo Series One #11

Hi Mom,

I caught up!!

After falling behind by almost an entire month during and following my trip to Salem with Liesel, I made a concerted effort to catch up on the blog and get back to daily production with posts being published on the current day. After exhausting some posts on the Salem trip, the Chicago Cubs winning the World Series, and the election, I decided to scan some old photos that I had not yet shared and do a photo series. As I explained before, this concept of a photo and some remarks was the original concept I had for this blog and its content. Later, after working through my early days and weeks of grief, I tried to leave the subject of grief and loss alone more often than not and post about my life and things of interest to me. I am now ready to get back to that mix of original content (stuff I actually write) and re-posted content (stuff I think is interesting), though now I have a photo series when I need to make a post quickly and without a lot of effort. At some point, I will end "photo series one" and start "photo series two," but I am going to have to think about what that transition means. For now, the photos will remain in "photo series one."

I did not know we visited East Tawas when I was 1 and 1/2 years old.

If one performs a Google search on East Tawas Point State Park, there are photos of this exact spot.

Though the photo is dark, I like that you are holding me,  Mom.

I also like the way we're both dressed. You in your Jackie Kennedy era styles in the summer shortly before JFK would be shot and killed. Me in summer whites from top to shoes and socks. You did a good job dressing me, Mom, at least until I got to high school and you were a bit out of touch. We had some disagreements then as I started to have my own ideas about how I looked.

But none of that has happened yet in this picture in 1963.

We look happy.

Welcome December 1st of 53 years later.

And now, I am current with my blog postings. I hope to never fall a month behind again. That was a new record. I almost gave up on daily posts, taking the huge back log as a sign that I was ready to stop making daily posts. But I am not ready, and as I talk to you this way, I feel your agreement that I should keep going, keep doing what makes me happy as I can sense that you are happy, Mom.

You are happy.

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Reflect and connect.

Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.

I miss you so very much, Mom.

Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.

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- Days ago = 515 days ago

- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1612.01 - 10:10

NOTE on time: When I post late, I had been posting at 7:10 a.m. because Google is on Pacific Time, and so this is really 10:10 EDT. However, it still shows up on the blog in Pacific time. So, I am going to start posting at 10:10 a.m. Pacific time, intending this to be 10:10 Eastern time. I know this only matters to me, and to you, Mom. But I am not going back and changing all the 7:10 a.m. times. But I will run this note for a while. Mom, you know that I am posting at 10:10 a.m. often because this is the time of your death.

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #512 - Christmas with Cousins 1984



Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #512 - Christmas with Cousins 1984 - Photo Series One #10

Hi Mom,

Here's a great picture of my cousins: Lois (left); Ward, Jr. (center); possibly his girlfriend and later wife Amy (but I am not sure); my sister, Lori (right); Aunt Brenda (farther right), Lois and Ward's Mom; and me in the front.

In December of 1984, I had just finished my senior Fall at K-College and was planning to leave for New York in a few weeks on my internship at Marvel Comics.

I know you would proud of me sharing a photo of your family, Mom.

I don't have as much contact with Lois these days, but I interact with Ward quite a bit. This is very cool picture of the both of them, and of my sister, who is 15 when this was taken.

I wonder when these family gatherings changed so we were not relegated to sitting at the "kids table" and could eat with the adults?

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Reflect and connect.

Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.

I miss you so very much, Mom.

Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.

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- Days ago = 514 days ago

- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1611.30 - 10:10

NOTE on time: When I post late, I had been posting at 7:10 a.m. because Google is on Pacific Time, and so this is really 10:10 EDT. However, it still shows up on the blog in Pacific time. So, I am going to start posting at 10:10 a.m. Pacific time, intending this to be 10:10 Eastern time. I know this only matters to me, and to you, Mom. But I am not going back and changing all the 7:10 a.m. times. But I will run this note for a while. Mom, you know that I am posting at 10:10 a.m. often because this is the time of your death.

Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #511 - Boating 1966


Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #511 - Boating 1966 - Photo Series One #9

Hi Mom,

So, following my question from yesterday, apparently, I could still sit on your lap at 4 1/2 years of age.

Here we are on Tug's (Dad's boyhood friend's) boat on Lake Michigan.

I am using a cone of paper to better here to churn of the motor through the water? Not sure.
Those are the same sunglasses as in my favorite picture of us, shared here (left).

I find it interesting that you are not wearing a scarf on this boat in what must have some significant air flow, though one cannot tell by looking at either of our hair. And that flag, it's not fluttering.

Maybe the boat is not moving very fast and the spray looks bigger because of the longer time the shutter on this camera needed to be open to take the picture. If there's no wind and not a great rush of air, perhaps you would not have worn a scarf.


I like to see us going places together, Mom.

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Reflect and connect.

Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.

I miss you so very much, Mom.

Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.

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- Days ago = 513 days ago

- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1611.29

NOTE on time: When I post late, I had been posting at 7:10 a.m. because Google is on Pacific Time, and so this is really 10:10 EDT. However, it still shows up on the blog in Pacific time. So, I am going to start posting at 10:10 a.m. Pacific time, intending this to be 10:10 Eastern time. I know this only matters to me, and to you, Mom. But I am not going back and changing all the 7:10 a.m. times. But I will run this note for a while. Mom, you know that I am posting at 10:10 a.m. often because this is the time of your death.

Monday, November 28, 2016

Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #510 - First Birthday, January 19, 1963



Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #510 - First Birthday, January 19, 1963 - Photo Series One #8

Hi Mom,

Here's a photo from my first birthday.

I am holding that clown candle that you set on the table on my birthday each year. I did not realize that it was given to me on my first birthday. This is another discussion we should have had. I am inclined to want to continue your traditions, the ones you created to make my birthday special. This is a subject (birthdays) that I have written about before on this and my T-shirt blog many times. Those interested can search or explore the birthdays category.

This clown candle and the other year-by-year age were constant center pieces on the birthday table, even through most of my 20s and 30s, before the meningitis compromised your ability to set the table.

And it looks like Dad got a color camera. Or was using his father's for this photo. This photo was taken in our house trailer because those are your cook books on the shelf behind us, and I remember that wicker chair quite well.

The little hat I am wearing blends with your blouse, but if you look closely, you can make out the tip of the conical hat.

In the kitchen beyond the planter, I can see the evidence of pots and cooking.

We can also clearly see your wedding ring, which you always wore.

Had we been looking at this photo album together, I would have asked you if the clown candle that we kept was this one or if you replaced it. I would have asked about your blouse, as I do not remember it. I would have asked what you had made for dinner that night. I would have asked when I got too heavy or too old to sit on your lap (surely years later as I am only one years old in this photo).

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Reflect and connect.

Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.

I miss you so very much, Mom.

Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.

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- Days ago = 512 days ago

- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1611.28 - 10:10

NOTE on time: When I post late, I had been posting at 7:10 a.m. because Google is on Pacific Time, and so this is really 10:10 EDT. However, it still shows up on the blog in Pacific time. So, I am going to start posting at 10:10 a.m. Pacific time, intending this to be 10:10 Eastern time. I know this only matters to me, and to you, Mom. But I am not going back and changing all the 7:10 a.m. times. But I will run this note for a while. Mom, you know that I am posting at 10:10 a.m. often because this is the time of your death.

Sunday, November 27, 2016

Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #509 - Cubs Trip March 11, 1972


Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #509 - Cubs Trip March 11, 1972 - by Giftloft- photo series one #7

Hi Mom,

Here's our Cub Scout Troop by a historic landmark that you noted on the photo as "by the Giftloft," as that was how you remembered it, rather than the Kalamazoo Celery Flats landmark.

I remember that the boy on the far left was named Vince. The rest I do not remember, and you did not list their names on the photo. Somewhere in your files, I am sure there is a roster, but I may not be able to match names and faces. School photos may help.

I do think it's significant that in this picture, taken in March, I am the only one wearing gloves, and I may be the only one in boots. Those are some serious rubber boots I have on, as one can see from my right leg with the pants hiked up. There's also only three of us wearing the Cub hat.

I am also wondering if I am wearing jeans or SNOW PANTS. There were many years of snow pants. The winter gear was quite extensive and surely part of the reason that I was ridiculed and bullied.

It is nice that you have your hand on my shoulder, Mom. I am also happy to see that my fellow Cubs have their arms around one another, including me. Things were not always so fillwed with goof fellow feeling and camaraderie.

It is nice to see that at this corner of Westnedge (as it becomes Park Street) and Crosstown Parkway that the bank building in the background still exists.

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Reflect and connect.

Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.

I miss you so very much, Mom.

Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.

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- Days ago = 511 days ago

- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1611.27 - 10:10

NOTE on time: When I post late, I had been posting at 7:10 a.m. because Google is on Pacific Time, and so this is really 10:10 EDT. However, it still shows up on the blog in Pacific time. So, I am going to start posting at 10:10 a.m. Pacific time, intending this to be 10:10 Eastern time. I know this only matters to me, and to you, Mom. But I am not going back and changing all the 7:10 a.m. times. But I will run this note for a while. Mom, you know that I am posting at 10:10 a.m. often because this is the time of your death.

Saturday, November 26, 2016

Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #508 - Tower Family 1966


Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #508 - Tower Family 1966 - photo series one #6

Hi Mom,

So I talked with Dad about these photos in what for me is yesterday in the future as it's Friday December 2nd as I type these words.

We had no good answer for why this photo album was not accessible so we could review it in the last fifteen years of your life OR why more of these photos were not framed and on display.

What's the point of photos that are hidden away and preserved carefully but not seen?

Looks like we're getting ready for something here. A wedding? Church?

This picture was taken in Traverse City as I recognize those white birch trees, white like your immaculate dress and gloves.

You are so much the epitome of the Jackie Kennedy era, Mom. Well done.

Off to Turkeyville Christmas show with Dad today (the blog post today - Saturday - 11/26/16). We miss you.

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Reflect and connect.

Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.

I miss you so very much, Mom.

Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.

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- Days ago = 510 days ago

- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1611.26 - 10:10

NOTE on time: When I post late, I had been posting at 7:10 a.m. because Google is on Pacific Time, and so this is really 10:10 EDT. However, it still shows up on the blog in Pacific time. So, I am going to start posting at 10:10 a.m. Pacific time, intending this to be 10:10 Eastern time. I know this only matters to me, and to you, Mom. But I am not going back and changing all the 7:10 a.m. times. But I will run this note for a while. Mom, you know that I am posting at 10:10 a.m. often because this is the time of your death.

Friday, November 25, 2016

Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #507 - Lori with Santa 1974




Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #507 - Lori with Santa 1974 - photo series one #5

Hi Mom,

Here's a lovely tradition, visiting Santa.

I want to say we always did this visit the day after Christmas, but I may be wrong. This Santa was probably the one in the Gilmore's toy store that is where the Union exists today.

Lori is five years old in this picture.

Lori and I are close. We are seeing a play tomorrow night (in the future as I write this tomorrow is Dec. 2nd) as I have to review. It's the play she and Noel were in when they started dating.

Again, I wish I had asked more questions when you were still here with us for your memories of things like this.

Also, why was this not in our Rogue's Gallery?

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Reflect and connect.

Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.

I miss you so very much, Mom.

Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.

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- Days ago = 509 days ago

- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1611.25 - 10:10

NOTE on time: When I post late, I had been posting at 7:10 a.m. because Google is on Pacific Time, and so this is really 10:10 EDT. However, it still shows up on the blog in Pacific time. So, I am going to start posting at 10:10 a.m. Pacific time, intending this to be 10:10 Eastern time. I know this only matters to me, and to you, Mom. But I am not going back and changing all the 7:10 a.m. times. But I will run this note for a while. Mom, you know that I am posting at 10:10 a.m. often because this is the time of your death.