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Thursday, December 29, 2016

Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #541 - Debbie Reynolds dies and More On Carrie

Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #541 - Debbie Reynolds dies and More On Carrie

Hi Mom.

In the last two days, two of your favorite women have died.

We loved two of the best films showcasing these talents: Carrie Fisher in When Harry Met Sally and Debbie Reynolds in Singin' in the Rain.

Are any of the cast members of Singin' in the Rain still alive?

When I first saw Singin' in the Rain in February of 1983, I fell in love with it. I saw a double feature of Top Hat and Singin' in the Rain, which my then girlfriend insisted we watch. I resisted because I didn't think I would like these movies. I was such an arrogant poser, such a serious "artist." But the films and my girlfriend's love for them won me over. It was one of the greatest learning moments of my life. I have tried ever since not to dismiss things that others, whom I trust, lover dearly. My wife has introduced me to many wonderful things, and I have tried to share many things with her as well.

This is the gift of great things and great experiences. And now with all the death this year both close to home (people I know) and people on the grand stage (people I admire and love but don't know personally), we have two more extraordinary people and women to mourn.

Lots more re-posting, Mom, but there was some original content.

The take away? Always take the recommendation of women one trusts.

from : http://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-38455777
Debbie Reynolds, who starred opposite Gene Kelly in the 1952 musical Singin' in the Rain, has died a day after the death of her daughter, Carrie Fisher.
The US actress, 84, had been rushed to hospital with a suspected stroke.
Her son, Todd Fisher, said the stress of his sister's death had been too much for her and in her last words, she had said she wanted to be with Carrie.


The Unsinkable Debbie Reynolds: On Carrie Fisher, Elizabeth Taylor, and Her Wild Hollywood Ride

From ‘Singin in the Rain’ to heartbreak and financial ruin, Debbie Reynolds, who died today, remained a great, old-school Hollywood star. In 2011, she spoke candidly to Tim Teeman.

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To watch the movie star Debbie Reynolds work a room, as I once did, was to watch a stately exemplar of old-school Hollywood, old-school grace, and old-school razzle-dazzle-‘em.
She also had just the right amount of self-knowledge and wit to speak freely—and make jokes—about the rollercoaster of ups and downs she herself had endured.
Her sharpness and wit made one thing immediately clear when you met her: yes, she was Carrie Fisher’s mother. And now mother and daughter are dead, Debbie dying the day after Carrie. It is tragic, terrible, and yet perversely befitting of the dramatic life trajectories of both mother and daughter.
Carrie died on December 27, aged 60, and Debbie died on December 28, aged 84, at Cedars-Sinai Hospital in Los Angeles after suffering a suspected stroke at her son Todd Fisher’s house.
“She wanted to be with Carrie,” Todd told Variety. He told the AP, “She’s now with Carrie, and we’re all heartbroken.” The stress of Carrie’s death was “too much” for Reynolds, he added.
In 2011, I interviewed Reynolds and Todd—how must he be feeling, having lost mother and sister like this?—at the Paley Center in Los Angeles for the London Times, where we talked about…well everything: Reynolds’s career (among the 30 movie-musicals she made between 1950 and 1967, she appeared in Singin’ In The Rain opposite Gene Kelly in 1952 when she was 19, and was nominated for a Best Actress Oscar for The Unsinkable Molly Brown in 1964), her marriage to Eddie Fisher in 1955, his leaving her for Elizabeth Taylor in 1958, and about Carrie, born in 1956, and their own thorny, though loving, relationship.
She's an immensely powerful woman, and I just admire my mother very much,'” Fisher told NPR last month.

Carrie and Todd Fisher with mother Debbie
Besides Fisher, there were two other husbands, financial ruin, and heartbreak. Reynolds even chose our meeting to wish her third husband dead, and she wasn’t joking. But the smile she sported with me and with her fans that day—genuine, life-quaffing, a survivor and a victor’s smile—stayed in place.

In recent weeks, Debbie supported Carrie first as she promoted her latest book, The Princess Diarist, rolling a Twitter eye as the headlines roiled after Carrie wrote that she had slept with Harrison Ford as they made the first Star Wars movie.

In recent weeks, Debbie supported Carrie first as she promoted her latest book, The Princess Diarist, rolling a Twitter eye as the headlines roiled after Carrie wrote that she had slept with Harrison Ford as they made the first Star Wars movie.

Why all the fuss about Carrie's admitting she had an affair with Harrison Ford? I have to admit I slept with her father! New book on 11/22!
Reynolds thanked fans and elicited their prayers when her daughter was rushed to hospital.

Carrie is in stable condition.If there is a change,we will share it. For all her fans & friends. I thank you for your prayers & good wishes.
And then when her daughter died yesterday, Reynolds via Facebook gracefully thanked her daughter’s fans for their support. “Thank you to everyone who has embraced the gifts and talents of my beloved and amazing daughter. I am grateful for your thoughts and prayers that are now guiding her to her next stop. Love Carries [sic] Mother.”
And now, one hopes, someone is guiding Debbie Reynolds to her next stop—maybe it will be her daughter herself. If they’re together, one hopes they’re both shaking their heads, and making some gallows humor, over the craziness of it all.
When we met on a sunny June day in 2011, Reynolds was resplendent in a glitter-trimmed red trouser suit and honeycomb bouffant, and the fans were gathered for a viewing of the first of four planned auctions of her astonishing archive of Hollywood costumes and memorabilia.
The items included the “subway” dress that Marilyn Monroe wore in The Seven Year Itch, hats worn by Charlie Chaplin and Groucho Marx, Elizabeth Taylor’s Cleopatra headdress, Barbra Streisand’s gowns from Hello Dolly!Ingrid Bergman’s suit of armor from Joan of Arc, and a car driven by Laurel and Hardy.
She told me she would have been happier if we were meeting at her own costume museum, which she had twice tried and failed to build. “I tried to get a museum built. I didn’t buy it all for me. I bought it to preserve it. I couldn’t find a husband that had money. All mine took my money.”

As I wrote, in person, despite the dimpled cheeks and outward sunniness of her personality, Reynolds—like her daughter—had a sharpness; she was more steel than magnolia. Todd, who seemed an extremely loyal and protective son, bemoaned the lack of industry support to safeguard his mother’s collection.
“I couldn’t believe it when they were selling everything,” Reynolds said of the studios divesting themselves of all the treasures she herself had scooped up and was now selling. “It was terrible, disrespectful and not very bright. It should be saved, like architecture. It breaks my heart, but my husbands have broken it before.”
The auctions of Reynolds’s costumes and memorabilia would bring in more than $25 million; Monroe’s white dress sold for $4.6 million.
In later years, Reynolds appeared in Will and Grace, but no one role defined her. “I’m Princess Leia’s mother,” she once deadpanned.
Prior to Singin’ In The Rain, her first movie role was in The Daughter of Rosie O’Grady (1950). In 1973, she earned a Best Actress (Musical) Tony nomination for her role in Irene; Glynis Johns was triumphant in her role as Desiree Armfeldt in A Little Night Music. Reynolds appeared in well-known movies like How the West Was Won (1962) and Divorce American Style (1967).
In the late 1960s, Reynolds had her own TV show, and later a headline act in Las Vegas. She returned to the big screen in 1996, playing the title role in Albert Brooks’s movie, Mother, receiving critical and award-winning acclaim. On Wednesday night, Brooks paid his own tribute on Twitter.

Debbie Reynolds, a legend and my movie mom. I can't believe this happened one day after Carrie. My heart goes out to Billie.
In 2014, she appeared as Liberace’s mother in HBO’s biopic Behind the Candelabra. As well as her Oscar nomination, she earned five Golden Globe nominations, and in 2015 Carrie presented her mother with the Screen Actors Guild’s Lifetime Achievement Award.
At the 2015 Oscars, Reynolds was awarded the Jean Hersholt Humanitarian Award for her advocacy around mental health issues. Reynolds’s granddaughter, Billie Lourd, accepted the award on her behalf as she wasn’t well enough to attend the ceremony.
Reynolds’s many personal dramas eclipsed her on-screen roles. In the late 1950s Fisher ran off with Taylor. She and Taylor then became friends, after Taylor left Fisher for Richard Burton.
Indeed, Reynolds told me, Taylor bought Burton’s costume from Cleopatra for her costume collection, “because I was so hard up and she wanted to save it and help me out. But she thought I was crazy. Everyone did.”
Taylor had died the previous March, a death Reynolds knew was coming. “I was grateful she was not ill anymore: she was in a lot of pain,” Reynolds told me. I asked how they had become friends, given her husband had left her for Taylor. “Once she met Richard Burton, she adored him and he her,” Reynolds told me.
A few years later, when both women had remarried, she and Taylor reconciled on a cruise ship. “Elizabeth said, ‘I made a foolish mistake and I’m very sorry if I hurt you in any way.’ I said, ‘Well, you did, but it’s past now and we’re going to go on,’ which we were adult enough to do. You have to let go of painful situations and I always liked Elizabeth. We had been at school at MGM together.”
Taylor, she told me, “made an error. It wasn’t really her fault. Eddie wanted to leave. I didn’t chase him out. I was absolutely heartbroken. This was the father of my two children, my first marriage, my first love. But I had to accept it and I did after a couple of years.”
In 2001, Reynolds and Taylor starred in—alongside Joan Collins and Shirley MacLaine—These Old Broads, written by Carrie Fisher, which sends up the original love triangle. “I was with Freddie because I was in a blackout. What's your excuse?” Taylor’s character tells Reynolds’.
Reynolds’s father, Ray, worked on the railroads in Texas, a man “so honest and straight he wouldn’t drive his car the day after its tax disc had expired,” Todd told me. Reynolds, who was born Mary Frances Reynolds in 1932, was 7 when the family moved to Burbank (Mary Frances was later deemed too old-fashioned by studio bosses; ironic when you consider her early, apple-pie public image). 
She told me she hadn’t dreamt of stardom, and that the family could barely afford “good food.” She said that, despite her dream of becoming a PE teacher, “fate stepped in and life took a new course, as I hope it will now.”

Debbie Reynolds I SAG Awards Acceptance Speech 2015 I TNT
Published on Jan 25, 2015

Having won a beauty contest at age 16, a contract with Warner Brothers followed and her career began. She didn’t seem that nostalgic. “I feel more shaken with every passing year,” Reynolds told me. “It comes upon you very quickly. One minute you’re 50, the next you’re 70. I think about mortality. One of the reasons for doing the auction is to pass it safely into other hands while I’m still here.”
Even then, aged 79, she worked 42 weeks a year, she told me, and planned to return to the UK to perform in a stage show (after 2010’s Alive and Fabulous).
Reynolds was never reconciled with Fisher, who died in September 2010. He trashed her in his 1999 memoir, Been There, Done That, as “the iron butterfly” and wrote: “Debbie's whole life has been an act...When I left her for Elizabeth Taylor, she should have won an Academy Award for her portrayal of the wronged woman.”
On Oprah, Reynolds made a gesture implying that Fisher was not well endowed. “Yes, and besides that his brain wasn’t that big either,” she told me archly. “Carrie says he turned out to be the nicest of my husbands. But he didn’t support the children. He didn’t call them or send Christmas or birthday presents, or cared about their education or their lives. Why should I respect that? I married very poorly. If I knew why, I would go back and redo it all.”
Her second husband [Harry Karl, married 1960-73] was “a very sweet man but didn’t have any sense about money,” she said. “He was a gamble-oholic, so he lost all of his money, which was millions and millions, and all my money which was millions. My third husband [Richard Hamlett, married 1984-96] was a tragedy.”
She financially supported Hamlett in opening a small hotel and casino, which went bust, rendering her bankrupt. “I’m waiting to read that somebody runs him off a cliff somewhere.”
She told me she had miscarried twice. “That was the most painful thing that ever happened to me. But my faith meant I felt one day God would send me an answer.”
I asked Reynolds if God had. “If you behave well during a painful time in your life, I believe your life will turn around. You have to be courageous, keep going forward. It’s hard. You have to be an adult, grow up.”
I asked if Reynolds was seeing anyone, or desirous of getting married again. She said she wasn’t. “I don’t even date. I’m 79. I have no reason to. I have many wonderful, bright and intelligent friends. We go to plays and have fun. The ideal is to be with someone to hold and to share life with. Now I’m past it; that train has left the station.”
Reynolds also revealed to me she had arthritis and osteoporosis, “but I deal with it because I have to. I have good people who keep me going down the railroad track. If you look through a tunnel at the end is light. Whatever troubles you’re having, remember that.”
Carrie Fisher once said that it was painful to watch her mother fade from “celebrity to obscurity,” but Reynolds told me she didn’t see it like that. “My life has always been in show business and always active. Stay interested in whatever you’re doing whether it’s writing, roller-skating or mountain climbing. Don’t give up.”
This led us to talking about her relationship with Carrie. Carrie said Debbie would call her every day and say, “Hello, dear, this is your mother Debbie,” as if her daughter needed continual reminding.
Todd told me that Carrie, who went on to make books and stage performances out of her demons (such as Wishful Drinking), first rebelled against Reynolds when mother tried to give daughter advice about her career. Then came Carrie’s various addictions.
“My daughter is a manic-depressive bipolar,” Reynolds told me. “That’s an illness, something you can’t help. Eddie was manic-depressive; it’s genetic. But she has great doctors and is mindful of her illness. For her to be as functioning as she is shows great courage.
“In the past our relationship was like many mothers and daughters: I told her the truth and maybe she didn’t want to hear it or maybe I was wrong.” Carrie, Reynolds told me, had asked her to play herself in an autobiographical movie she is making. “I said: ‘Oh my goodness, I had to live my life and now I have to live it again.’”
When Carrie’s then-partner (and father of her daughter Billie), Bryan Lourd, turned out to be gay, Debbie told her daughter: “You know, dear, we’ve had every sort of man in our family—we’ve had horse thieves and alcoholics and one-man bands—but this is our first homosexual!”
As to the rumors Reynolds was a lesbian, Carrie said, “My mother is not a lesbian! She’s just a really, really bad heterosexual.”
The flapping, demented, deeply intrusive and self-involved movie star played by Shirley MacLaine in the movie of Carrie’s semi-autobiographical Postcards from the Edge was not her, Reynolds told me. “Mike Nichols [the director] wanted the mother to be as cuckoo as the daughter and an alcoholic, which I am not. How could I have been and functioned all these years? I haven’t missed two days’ work in 65 years.”
Unlike her daughter, harmful addiction had evaded her. “I saw a lot of it but never wanted to,” Reynolds told me. “I remember being sick all night after drinking sweet sherry.” She recalled stars having shots—“they called them vitamins, but it was speed.”
That day at the Paley Center, Reynolds told me that her ambition was “to remain happy,” to carry on performing live shows “as long as they’ll have me.” At home she sat on the porch “and listens to the trees. I’ve learnt to be grateful for what one has.”
Her final project—oddly apposite now—was a documentary, Bright Lights: Starring Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds, with Todd Fisher both in it and listed as one of the producers.
Before I left her that day, I watched Reynolds meet and greet fans, with a smile as warm and welcoming as it was somehow commanding. “Hello, folks… Oh, you’re too young to remember Rudolph Valentino…Thank you, I appreciate it…” Debbie Reynolds was playing to an adoring crowd. She was on show. She was in her element.

From: http://www.vox.com/culture/2016/12/28/14109892/debbie-reynolds-dies-singing-in-the-rain-clip

Watch: the Singin’ in the Rain scene that made Debbie Reynolds a star

Reynolds didn’t know how to dance before she was cast opposite the legendary Gene Kelly. That didn’t stop her from stealing the show.

Debbie Reynolds — who died December 28 at age 84 — was 19 years-old when her life changed forever.
After cutting her teeth on cabaret performances and winning the Miss Burbank pageant in 1948, Reynolds landed the part of Kathy Selden in Singin’ in the Rain, the 1952 classic that would launch her career. She was to sing and dance opposite Donald O’Connor and Gene Kelly, lauded Hollywood mainstays with decades of performing experience, while she had almost none, and zero dancing experience to speak of.
That’s why, as Reynolds would later tell it, Kelly wasn’t too thrilled about her casting. Speaking to the UK’s Sunday Express in 2013, Reynolds wryly recounted how Kelly dismissed her lack of experience and showed little sympathy when she danced so much during filming that her feet bled:
"My feet were bleeding from all that dancing and when I pointed it out, Gene would say 'Clean it up!' He was very sentimental like that!”
But Reynolds wasn’t scared of Kelly, nor of the prospect of starring in a huge musical with a scant resumé. “You know, I was so dumb,” she said to the American Film Institute in 2012 with a self-aware smile, “that I didn’t feel you could fail. I felt [the part] was me, and I marched straight ahead.”

Actress Debbie Reynolds talks about her role in SINGIN' IN THE RAIN, and the creative forces both behind and in front of the camera. SINGIN' IN THE RAIN ranks #5 on AFI's list of 100 Greatest Films, was directed by Stanley Donen and stars Gene Kelly, Donald O'Connor, Debbie Reynolds and Jean Hagen.

There’s no better scene from Singin’ in the Rain to illustrate Reynolds’s natural talent and hardworking nature — she’d only been learning to dance for three months when the movie was filmed — than the exuberant number “Good Morning.” Reynolds literally goes toe to toe with O’Connor and a 37-year-old Kelly, matching them step for kick-ball-change’d step as she tip-taps around the set with a perpetual grin.
Between Reynolds’s natural charisma and the two men dancing on either side of her in virtually identical outfits, it’s hard not to focus squarely on her, a brilliant performer who willed her inexperience into submission with sheer determination and skill.
“To dance with Gene Kelly and Donald O’Connor in three months — well, anyone else should’ve passed out,” Reynolds told AFI. “But I didn’t. I just thought, ‘well, let’s get started.’”
You can watch the full clip of “Good Morning” above. Singin’ in the Rain is currently available to rent on Amazon.
Watch: Carrie Fisher's heartfelt lifetime achievement tribute to her mother, Debbie Reynolds

This viral post perfectly captures why Carrie Fisher will be missed so dearly.

Far more than just a princess, Carrie Fisher was an icon.

On Tuesday, Dec. 27, Carrie Fisher died at age 60.

Her death comes four days after she suffered a heart attack. Best known for her role as Princess Leia in the Star Wars film franchise, it's hard to overstate just how inadequate that basic description of her is. In addition to being an actor, Fisher was also a best-selling author and a mental health advocate. To her fans, she was even more than that: an idol, an inspiration, and even a lifesaver.

This viral Tumblr post from user angelica-church explains just what made Fisher so special:

Originally shared on Dec. 23, 2016, the post has racked up more than 116,000 interactions as of this writing.
"Carrie Fisher isn’t just Princess Leia. Carrie Fisher isn’t just an actress we all admire from a famous series of movies made a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away. Carrie Fisher isn’t just another name on the list of shitty things 2016 has done to people I admire. 

Carrie Fisher is a woman who struggled with addiction and mental illness and never sugar coated it — she spoke honestly, openly, about every ugly truth, and made me so much less ashamed of the things I struggle with in my daily life."

John Boyega and Carrie Fisher attend the world premiere of "“Star Wars: The Force Awakens" in Hollywood, California. Photo by Mike Windle/Getty Images for Disney.

"Carrie Fisher is a woman who fought back against body shaming and misogyny, against agesim, who looked at critics and said, 'Yes, I am a woman who has aged, and had children, and struggled with depression* and addiction and my body has changed, so you can just shut the fuck up and deal with it,' and it was absolutely beautiful.

Carrie Fisher is a woman who was placed in the role of 'princess,' but didn’t conform to the typical Hollywood idea of what a princess should be. She’s loud, brash, crass, and unapologetic for being so."

Fisher with her dog Gary in 2015. Photo by Jesse Grant/Getty Images for Disney.

"She’s an idol and an inspiration and she’s a woman who saved my life many times just by being who she was and never shying away from it or feeling the need to say sorry. Carrie Fisher is so much and more and I cannot begin to stomach the thought of 2016 taking her away from me, from her family, from the rest of the world and those of us who love her so dearly.

I love you, space momma. We all do. Keep fighting the good fight."

Harrison Ford, Mark Hamill, and Fisher attend a Star Wars fan concert in 2015 in San Diego, California. Photo by Jesse Grant/Getty Images for Disney.

We all draw our inspiration from somewhere. For many of us, that means looking to athletes, actors, entertainers, and other pop culture figures for guidance. Maybe Leonard Cohen's music helped you understand heartbreak; maybe David Bowie's carefree approach to fashion and gender expression helped you relate to the world in a new way; maybe Muhammad Ali's willingness to stand up for what he believed in helped you find a resolve deep within yourself you didn't know you had.
Carrie Fisher showed us that being a princess is about so much more than a crown.


"Drowned in moonlight, strangled by my own bra."

"Remember the white dress I wore all through that film? George came up to me the first day of filming, took one look at the dress and said: ‘You can’t wear a bra under that dress.’

‘OK, I’ll bite,’ I said. ‘Why?’ And he said: ‘Because … there’s no underwear in space.’
He said it with such conviction. Like he had been to space and looked around and he didn’t see any bras or panties anywhere.

He explained. ‘You go into space and you become weightless. Then your body expands but your bra doesn’t, so you get strangled by your own underwear.’

I think that this would make for a fantastic obituary. I tell my younger friends that no matter how I go, I want it reported that I drowned in moonlight, strangled by my own bra."

― Carrie Fisher, Wishful Drinking 
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“I don’t want life to imitate art. I want life to BE art.” 

― Carrie Fisher
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Relatos de uma família feliz em #StarWars:punch: :joy:
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“I not only feel better about myself because these people are also fucked up (and I guess this gives us a sense of community), but I feel better because look how much these fellow fuckups managed to accomplish!”

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#leia #starwars #icone #ellophotography #princesse i m so sad RIP 27.12.2016 Carrie FIsher
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“Stay afraid, but do it anyway. What’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait to be confident. Just do it and eventually the confidence will follow.” 

— Carrie Fisher
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NOTE on time: When I post late, I had been posting at 7:10 a.m. because Google is on Pacific Time, and so this is really 10:10 EDT. However, it still shows up on the blog in Pacific time. So, I am going to start posting at 10:10 a.m. Pacific time, intending this to be 10:10 Eastern time. I know this only matters to me, and to you, Mom. But I am not going back and changing all the 7:10 a.m. times. But I will run this note for a while. Mom, you know that I am posting at 10:10 a.m. often because this is the time of your death.
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