|Tower-Delbridge family December 1997|
Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #239 - The imprint of the formative family
You are proud of me, I know, for selecting this photo as I share content (very directly copied but credited) from Maria Popova's BRAIN PICKINGS on the importance of the formative family.
First, a word about copying. Often when I share the content of others, I am doing so to give myself a place to read it, as I did with this content last night in bed. I always give due credit to sources, and sometimes I dispense with the original formatting, but in this case, I like the set up of Brain Pickings, and so, here's some of the content from that great web site.
I have never read Willa Cather. I have nothing against her. She's just one of those authors whose work I have not yet explored, and none of my classes assigned her as reading in earning my bachelor's and master's degrees. Though perhaps one such class should have. Had I been in a REAL Studies in the Novel class and not one organized by a stubborn professor stuck in works pre-20th century, we might have read Cather's most famous, My Ántonia, though she won the Pulitzer for One of Ours.
This article caught my attention when it came in the weekly BRAIN PICKINGS as it had to do with the family, and I have spent a great deal of time thinking about family as I try to make sense of our family without you as physical presence, Mom.
I love this quote: “To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love,” the great Zen teacher Thich Nhat Hahn wrote in his short, potent meditation on how to love.
I think I know how to love, and I know because I learned from you, Mom. (And from Dad, but there's differences in the way of each of expressed love.) These family dynamics discussed here in this article have imprinted on me and have shaped my whole life, how I live, how I see the world, and what I have to share with others.
I am also very interested in how this article ends. There's much to explore there, but especially: "revisit philosopher Martha Nussbaum on how storytelling rewires our emotional patterning," which is something that I have invested thought in recently, especially as I watch Monica Byrne build her writing career and share her work with us, her patrons (more on her in a future entry that I need to finish).
Since next week is Spring Break, which starts tomorrow, I will surely take time for some of these explorations, and finish several blog posts that require more time than I have had lately.
Until then, this content...
“In those simple relationships of loving husband and wife, affectionate sisters, children and grandmother, there are innumerable shades of sweetness and anguish which make up the pattern of our lives day by day.”
BY MARIA POPOVA
SOURCE: BRAIN PICKINGS - WILLA CATHER
Reflect and connect.
Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.
Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.
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- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1603.02 - 10:10
NOTE on time: When I post late, I had been posting at 7:10 a.m. because Google is on Pacific Time, and so this is really 10:10 EDT. However, it still shows up on the blog in Pacific time. So, I am going to start posting at 10:10 a.m. Pacific time, intending this to be 10:10 Eastern time. I know this only
matters to me, and to you, Mom. But I am not going back and changing all the 7:10 a.m. times. But I will run this note for a while. Mom, you know that I am posting at 10:10 a.m. often because this is the time of your death.