Hey, Mom! The Explanation.

Here's the permanent dedicated link to my first Hey, Mom! post and the explanation of the feature it contains.

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Friday, October 2, 2026

A Sense of Doubt blog post #4246 - Toxic MultiTasking



A Sense of Doubt blog post #4246 - Toxic MultiTasking

Just this share today and posted late.

This is definitely advice we can all use.

Thanks for tuning in.


‘Toxic multitasking’ is breaking your brain. Here’s how to take control.




Jolie Kerr, Special to The Washington Post
6 min read

n our busy, always-on world, multitasking - performing several tasks or engaging in more than one activity concurrently - has become a default setting. At work and at play, our focus is increasingly given to more than one thing at a time: checking emails during a Zoom meeting, scrolling Instagram while watching television, switching browser tabs or responding to notifications while engaged in deep or focused work.

"Toxic multitasking is the illusion of productivity," says Sandi Chapman, the chief director at the Center for BrainHealth and a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Dallas. "Multitasking is often seen as a sign of high productivity. Unfortunately, your brain experiences it as a performance bottleneck. We think we're getting two complex things done at once, but our brains simply aren't wired for it."

Not all forms of multitasking are unhealthy, but multitasking can, and often does, turn into problematic behavior that can become addictive, and that has a real effect on how our brain and nervous system function.

Toxic multitasking is the norm, but that doesn't make it normal

"Today, more and more people are doing multiple things at the same time, double- and triple-booked on meetings," says Ashish Kothari, founder and CEO of Happiness Squad, a consulting group focused on employee engagement. Although it may give the appearance and feeling of productivity, multitasking that is characterized by constant "context switching" is detrimental without breaks.

"When you switch between tasks, your brain doesn't instantly reset," Chapman says. "It burns through your mental energy. Your brain works harder and produces less." She compares multitasking to trying to read two books at once. "You don't absorb twice as much information from reading both at the same time. Instead, you simply keep losing your place in both."

This way of working doesn't stop at work. The urge to multitask continues outside of business hours, permeating our nonwork time. "We're on phones all the time," Kothari says. "We might be watching TV and doing something else. As a result our sleep is affected and, combined, creates a heavy toxic effect on our holistic well-being, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually."

Digital multitasking, such as looking at more than one entertainment device at a time (e.g., watching TV while scrolling on TikTok), has a particularly strong negative effect on our attention - and, ironically, on our ability to multitask. "These types of inputs actually reduce your ability to handle multiple inputs at once," says neuroscientist Kay Linker.

Linker distinguishes between good multitasking and bad, pointing out that multitasking can be beneficial when used correctly. "Once a task becomes automatic, it is transferred to a different part of the brain, allowing for parallel processing," she says. Examples of this include listening to a podcast or book while taking a walk or calling a friend while commuting to work, in contrast to what Linker calls "task switching, which drains your control and focus."

The effects of toxic multitasking are real, and so are the drivers

There are consequences to all this multitasking, and the effects can be serious, affecting performance at work and creating a high degree of exhaustion, stress and burnout that leads to the inability to think clearly, i.e., brain fog. There are also emotional and interpersonal repercussions, including irritability, a reduced ability to connect with others, a shallow or insincere affect, and a loss in satisfaction at work and life.

Chapman says that toxic multitasking is a natural extension of American hustle culture. "There's pressure on us, both professionally and personally, to prioritize output and quantity over quality," she says. The pressures of expectation, driven by technology, have created a constant hunger for productivity, in which we feel the need to always be on and to give our attention away to social media and smartphones.

"We have become dopamine addicts," says Kothari, who adds that the pace at which we're expected to take in and respond to information is "putting us in a constant fight-flight-freeze mode, wanting us to keep taking action and feeling like we can't stop."

Because toxic multitasking has been so normalized, you may not even be aware of how much you're engaging in it, but there are clear signs that it has become a problem. "Usually, the first symptom of toxic multitasking is emotional strain," Chapman says. "If a quick question from a co-worker makes you want to snap, that's often a sign your brain is overwhelmed from constant distractions or overload."

There are other ways to determine whether multitasking is a problem, and Kothari recommends using these assessments to identify an attention problem:

Do you know how often you pick up your phone? Counting the number of times you pick up your phone during the day provides a data point to quantify a digital multitasking habit. "Most people pick their phone up over 150 times a day," Kothari says. "It's a clear indicator that we have lost our ability to focus."

Are you addicted to dopamine? To determine whether the problem is a dopamine addiction, set a timer and sit quietly while doing nothing. Doing so will tell you how long you can go without being distracted.

Is your wearable telling you to cool it? "If you wear an Oura ring or another wearable," Kothari says, "look at the amount of time you spent in a high-stress zone."

How to break a toxic multitasking habit

It can be difficult to wrest back control of your time and attention in a world full of distractions, but here are some ways to exert power over technology and the pressure to appear productive:

Try meditation. Kothari calls meditation and other mindfulness practices "foundational" to increasing focus and our ability to stay in the moment.

Practice single-tasking. Linker recommends improving your attention span by engaging in a single task such as writing or reading for a sustained period, which she defines as an hour or more.

Design your environment for success. Silencing notifications, closing unnecessary browser windows, and keeping your phone out of sight and out of reach will help deepen your focus. "Keeping a scratch pad on your desk lets you quickly log random errands or stray thoughts on paper without interrupting your workflow," Chapman says.

Use technology that cuts off a digital multitasking habit. To address the overuse of smartphones, Kothari recommends the Brick device. "It's a tile that you can use to turn off all apps or even access to your phone completely."

Recalibrate norms at the office to encourage deep work. In workplaces where multitasking makes it impossible to get things done well, or even at all, Kothari says, "set norms for focused, deep work time where all of your notifications are off and your colleagues commit to not disturbing you."

Take regular brain breaks. Giving your brain a break by taking a short walk, going outside, stretching or simply sitting quietly for a few minutes will restore your mental energy and attention span - and prevent late-afternoon crashes. "A break is not switching from your laptop to your phone," Chapman says. "A true brain break means stepping away from screens altogether."

Engage in one form of entertainment at a time. "Limiting concurrent device usage and social media short-form videos will improve the … assault this type of entertainment has on our ability to focus," Linker says.

Make a deliberate choice. Chapman says that reclaiming our attention spans is entirely in our control but that it requires making the deliberate choice to stop multitasking and start single-tasking. "With this one simple change, many people notice an immediate improvement in their focus, mental energy and productivity," she says.


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- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 2610.02 - 10:10

- Days ago: MOM = 4110 days ago & DAD = 764 days ago

- New note - On 1807.06, I ceased daily transmission of my Hey Mom feature after three years of daily conversations. I post Hey Mom blog entries on special occasions. I post the days since ("Days Ago") count on my blog each day, and now I have a second count for Days since my Dad died on August 28, 2024. I am now in the same time zone as Google! So, when I post at 10:10 a.m. PDT to coincide with the time of Mom's death, I am now actually posting late, so it's really 1:10 p.m. EDT. But I will continue to use the time stamp of 10:10 a.m. to remember the time of her death and sometimes 13:40 EDT for the time of Dad's death. The blog entry numbering in the title has changed to reflect total Sense of Doubt posts since I began the blog on 0705.04, which include Hey Mom posts, Daily Bowie posts, and Sense of Doubt posts. Hey Mom posts will still be numbered sequentially. New Hey Mom posts will use the same format as all the other Hey Mom posts; all other posts will feature this format seen here.

Thursday, September 3, 2026

A Sense of Doubt blog post #4217 - Letter to Dad #51 - Pressure Washing on Your Day and Puppies


A Sense of Doubt blog post #4217 - Letter to Dad #51 - Pressure Washing on Your Day and Puppies

Hey Big Guy,

I am actually writing this post two days late because of work. I have started my counseling practicum and am driving to Salem, OR twice a week. First week in the books, and it went really well. Not doing individual sessions yet and still learning the ropes. But I liked the people and the experiences I had this week. I am going to learn A LOT and already have been learning a lot. Challenging population, people experiencing substance use disorder.

I had my first faculty supervision class, two hours, Wednesday mornings. I like my instructor a lot, and my classmates are a very diverse group, which I love!

The week wasn't all that exhausting although I did a lot. However, I am kind of exhausted. Maybe changing my sleep schedule to get up an hour earlier has something to do with it.

I did get some writing done this week, though not as much the previous weeks.

Lots of rain so no porch time, but now, two days later, I hope to get some porch time.

I miss you, Big Guy.

I channeled you as I did pressure washing, more on that below as I curate a series of photos.

ABOVE: Satchel on August 25th on the floor near the kitchen.



I like to take pictures when the puppies spend time together. Essel loves her sisters, but she especially loves her sister Ellory as shown above from August 25th.


Because Satchel has congestive heart failure, she should not walk up hills or stairs. I cannot always stop her in time to carry her up the stairs in our home, especially when I am not home.
I can stop her from going up hills. So we are back to using the stroller we bought after her second knee surgery. I walk her down the hill and then push her back up. She always tries to walk up the hill, but once I force her to turn around, she often jumps into the stroller before I can help her.

It's not as if she DOES NOT like her ride. She likes it. Pictures of her in the stroller follow.

All taken August 28th.







Here's that picture again that I made the topper image. I really like it.


Here's the very clean driveway I washed after the back patio. Both were filthy. My friend's pressure washer also blasted weeds that were growing through the drain grate midway. The driveway is now cleaner than my car. August 28th.


Here's the pressure washer and some of the patio in its filthy condition.


I used a lot of water, but here I still had to go close over all the cement.
The nozzle oscillates the water, and I was warned to take care as it could cut my foot or shred 2x4.



FINISHED! SO CLEAN. AUGUST 28TH.


Different angle on these puppies, August 25th.


Thanks for tuning in.

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- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 2609.03 - 13:40
Letters to Dad will now be published at 13:40 if I can remember.

- Days ago: MOM = 4081 days ago & DAD = 735 days ago

- New note - On 1807.06, I ceased daily transmission of my Hey Mom feature after three years of daily conversations. I post Hey Mom blog entries on special occasions. I post the days since ("Days Ago") count on my blog each day, and now I have a second count for Days since my Dad died on August 28, 2024. I am now in the same time zone as Google! So, when I post at 10:10 a.m. PDT to coincide with the time of Mom's death, I am now actually posting late, so it's really 1:10 p.m. EDT. But I will continue to use the time stamp of 10:10 a.m. to remember the time of her death and sometimes 13:40 EDT for the time of Dad's death. The blog entry numbering in the title has changed to reflect total Sense of Doubt posts since I began the blog on 0705.04, which include Hey Mom posts, Daily Bowie posts, and Sense of Doubt posts. Hey Mom posts will still be numbered sequentially. New Hey Mom posts will use the same format as all the other Hey Mom posts; all other posts will feature this format seen here.

Thursday, August 27, 2026

A Sense of Doubt blog post #4210 - Letter to Dad #50: Pressure Washing with Dad in Honor of his Passing Two Years Ago


A Sense of Doubt blog post #4210 - Letter to Dad #50: Pressure Washing with Dad in Honor of his Passing Two Years Ago

Hi Big Guy, 

It is fitting that on the day before the second year since you died, my letters to you feature hits fifty.
No more significance to this number other than it's a special number enroute to one hundred, so it is notable.

Also, BTW, I am publishing this and the next six posts  (seven in all) at 13:40 instead of 10:10. The time of your death, Dad.

Even more fitting is what I will do tomorrow on the second year since your death that I am going to pressure wash patio, drive ways, deck, and porch. So, in that spirit, I am reprinting here when we pressure washed together before staining the deck at St. Antoine in Kalamazoo a color that was not approved, so we had to re-do it!

Before that reprint, not much to report. Back to teaching creative writing, which I have not taught for five years, and of course the whole course is changed.

Making time for my own writing at a pretty solid clip, so I am proud of that.

Start my Practicum (not internship yet but essentially the same thing) on Monday. 

Things are going well.

I miss you and love you, Dad.
~ christopher

Link to the original post I am reprinting below:

Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #357 - Work days with the Big Guy

Hi Mom, This one's mostly pictures. There's been lots of work around here lately with the Big Guy, my Dad, you know, Robert "Bob" Tower, your husband.

In the photo above, I had to insist that Dad smiled. It's a good smile.

This photo gallery charts our power washing of the deck and then staining the deck.

Liesel does not like the stain color (see sample pick of the color swatch below). But the staining of the deck is more about preserving the wood than looks. We needed solid stain. She wanted grey. We miscommunicated.

AND we will need to power wash again later this summer or early in the fall. We skipped a section of the house because we were running out of time and energy.

As you know, Mom, Dad and I have always done these work days. They used to be in support of our home, ours together as a family. But now, mostly, they are in support of my home with Liesel and the kids.

Dad told me that  a year ago he would not have been able to do all this work. He's doing yoga, and it's really helped him.

Also, he was taking care of you, and in your last two years, it was not as easy for us to bring you along and stash you in front of a TV or for a nap on the a couch.

I know these pictures would be interesting to you, Mom; you would look at them all, nodding and smiling. But my other readers may not find much of interest here. Still, I like our work and the before-after progression of the deck staining. I have also added my Instagram/Twitter/Facebook posts and captions. "SO MUCH DIRT!!!"

These times with my Dad are precious. I would not trade them for anything in the world.








































Satchel: "I want to come outside, please."
Me: "No, you are already covered with stain."

Satchel, thinking: "How could I get outside without his help."
Me: "Satchel, don't even think you're getting outside until the stain dries."



ALL DONE!! Four days later, the deck looks great, if you like cape grey as a color that is.






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Reflect and connect.

Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.

I miss you so very much, Mom.

Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.

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- Days ago = 359 days ago

- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1606.28 - 10:10

NOTE on time: When I post late, I had been posting at 7:10 a.m. because Google is on Pacific Time, and so this is really 10:10 EDT. However, it still shows up on the blog in Pacific time. So, I am going to start posting at 10:10 a.m. Pacific time, intending this to be 10:10 Eastern time. I know this only matters to me, and to you, Mom. But I am not going back and changing all the 7:10 a.m. times. But I will run this note for a while. Mom, you know that I am posting at 10:10 a.m. often because this is the time of your death.





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- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 2608.27 - 13:40

- Days ago: MOM = 4074 days ago & DAD = 729 days ago

- New note - On 1807.06, I ceased daily transmission of my Hey Mom feature after three years of daily conversations. I post Hey Mom blog entries on special occasions. I post the days since ("Days Ago") count on my blog each day, and now I have a second count for Days since my Dad died on August 28, 2024. I am now in the same time zone as Google! So, when I post at 10:10 a.m. PDT to coincide with the time of Mom's death, I am now actually posting late, so it's really 1:10 p.m. EDT. But I will continue to use the time stamp of 10:10 a.m. to remember the time of her death and sometimes 13:40 EDT for the time of Dad's death. The blog entry numbering in the title has changed to reflect total Sense of Doubt posts since I began the blog on 0705.04, which include Hey Mom posts, Daily Bowie posts, and Sense of Doubt posts. Hey Mom posts will still be numbered sequentially. New Hey Mom posts will use the same format as all the other Hey Mom posts; all other posts will feature this format seen here.