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Thursday, August 21, 2025

A Sense of Doubt blog post #3838 - An Immersive Flow State is Accessible

A Sense of Doubt blog post #3838 - An Immersive Flow State is Accessible

Fell behind schedule, so quick share on flow state.

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June 9, 2025

Ingredients for brilliance

An immersive ‘flow state’ isn’t only accessible to great artists and athletes. You can find your flow too. Here’s how


To tap into the flow state, your skill level and the challenge of the task you’re working on should be in perfect balance. This is one of the eight principles of flow, first described by the Hungarian scientist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. He coined the term ‘flow’ in 1990 after decades of scientific work about what surgeons, painters, dancers, writers, scientists, martial artists, musicians and other creatives have in common – a curious, all-absorbing state of mind where we feel amazing and are incredibly productive and creative at the same time.

Modern neuroscience distinguishes between two mental states: one of striving, where a surge of dopamine keeps us laser-focused on external goals like winning, perfection or achievement – and another of serene presence, where we hover in the moment, simply being. In this latter state, our neural chemistry shifts; endogenous opioids and endocannabinoids fill the brain, bringing feelings of deep satisfaction, fulfilment and joy in the now.

Motivation psychologists distinguish these two states as extrinsic and intrinsic motivation for what we’re doing. The former takes hard work and discipline to keep us going. The latter propels us forward, as by magic: flow. Research even shows that those more prone to enter the flow state might have lower risk of mental health problems and cardiovascular disease.


The more we read about flow or hear people describe what it feels like, the more we want to be in this state regularly. And we should – according to science! However, for most people, flow is something they might remember from childhood, when they were lost in play. Or it is something that may happen by chance but is incredibly hard to tap into at will.

The Romantic myth of the creatively engrossed genius also doesn’t help us. The human mind loves a hero’s story, and most of us seem to know what we were doing and why, in retrospect. Clearly, the thought leaders and architects of human history just ‘had it’, that creative ability to flow. Gutenberg’s printing press started off exponential literacy development. Electricity, vaccines and antibiotics brought about unparalleled social changes and health and wellbeing enhancements. The Lumière brothers moved people in 1895 with the first-ever movie. Fairy-tales, paintings, musical pieces and dances by known and unknown artists keep enthusing brains all over the world. Accounts of how one person’s creative flow leads to excellence, societal impact and Nobel prizes wow us.

It seems there’s nothing left for the rest of us mere mortals but to be bystanders to others’ brilliance. The more we read about the gifted, the more we feel blocked and barred from heightened creativity and the promise of the flow state ourselves. Who could ever keep up with Albert Einstein’s theory of relativity? Yet Einstein failed his university entrance exams in language and history, and he’d been broke and unemployed. The myth of the genius is that these individuals woke up one morning and excelled. As a result, too many people are convinced that either you’re creative and you just happen to be able to find flow, or you’re not and you don’t.

Once you grasp what sharpens our talent for brilliance, you’ll realise that flow is for everyone

What is never mentioned about the grand inventors, artists, scientists and doctors of our world who have done amazing deeds for humanity with their minds and hands is that they all failed in their attempts before they made it.

Besides failure, the second mysterious ingredient that made them brilliant in the first place and allowed them to wake up one morning and let their intuitive mind make ‘the splash’ is also never mentioned. Once you grasp what sharpens our talent for brilliance, and how to get it, you’ll realise that flow and creativity is for everyone.

But beware – the path to flow is paved with more bad advice.

‘You just have to feel it,’ our drawing teacher Carlo used to tell us, over and again.

It looked easy when he let his charcoal slide over the textured surface of the cold-pressed paper, his trace revealing shapes, intentions and emotions in 3D. It looked so effortless, and he looked so pretty, immersed as he was. Then he’d resurface and his facial expression would transform into an exhausted frown at our botched attempts to feel with a pen on paper. No matter how hard I’d tried, the feeling somehow didn’t stick to my pencil – and, after a while, I didn’t stick to the drawing classes either.

Flow is a fleeting, immersive state in which time and space seem to compress or expand, accompanied by a delicious fusion of movement and awareness – where you don’t just move: you are the movement. You have a very clear goal of what you’re trying to achieve. You know what you’re doing. You’re receiving clear feedback from the task itself about how it’s going, and you know when you’re doing it right. You’re also feeling intrinsically motivated to keep going, and the noise of uncertainty fades, leaving you feeling in control of your life and free from ruminative thought loops. All the while, Csikszentmihalyi’s core principle of matching the challenge to your skill makes you hover in this sweet spot, where what you’re doing is neither too hard nor too easy. Altogether, these dynamics form the eight core principles of flow.

Years ago, without any scientific training at all – when I was still a professional dancer, before the injury that ended it all – I knew this feeling well. I used to tap into it regularly. Especially when I was away from the competitive life of a professional dancer, far away from the classical music and the pointe shoes. At home in the kitchen dancing to Michael Jackson, or in some techno club at night, where I hid in a too-large hoodie and no one knew me. There, I could feel it and, like my drawing teacher Carlo, I couldn’t understand why others couldn’t just feel this way too.

It was so easy and it made life’s pressures recede into the shadows, letting me live.

Today, I’m a neuroscientist. I’ve since found flow in science, while writing fiction, dancing Argentine tango, belly dancing, reading – and one strange afternoon, I also finally found flow with drawing. Thanks to the knowledge about the brain that I have now, I know that just ‘feeling it’ is by no means enough to excel, be creative, nor to find flow. ‘Feel it!’ is well-meaning advice often given by artists, scientists and other professionals. I’m guilty of having shouted ‘Feel it!’ to bewildered dance students too.

The real control centre is in the brain. This is where movement begins

What we creatives are often unaware of is that talent isn’t everything. Sure, talent helps – but just as important is something else we rarely think about: repetition. The repeated movements of our craft – the physical routines we practise over and over – follow us everywhere. Whether we call it practice or technique, these repeated actions shape our brains in powerful ways, often without us even realising it.

They form unique connections in the brain – linking movement, memory and emotion. These connections stretch across the parts of the brain that control movement, wrap around the areas responsible for memory, and reach deep into the emotional core of the brain – the limbic system. That includes the insula, a region that helps manage both our physical health and our inner sense of self.

‘Muscle memory’ doesn’t live in our hands or legs. The real control centre is in the brain. This is where movement begins, guided by systems that plan and initiate what we do. From there, messages travel through long chains of nerve cells – from the brain down the spine and out to the rest of the body. Millions of tiny electrical signals, known as action potentials, move back and forth, telling our muscles, organs and even the tips of our fingers what to do next.

The idea is to ‘program’ the right moves in our brain so they become so automatic we can use them to, yes, feel, and to find flow.

One thing is for sure, if you keep chasing flow by some sort of celestial action, waiting for your inner genius to strike from nowhere, you’ll keep failing. Because that genius, apologies for being blunt, is, in fact, nowhere to be found. Genius is work.

Enter your new superpower: knowledge from neuroscience.

What may seem a strange, repetitive, even boring activity is in fact doing magic to their brains

The prefrontal cortex sits behind the forehead and is one of the youngest parts of the brain, in evolutionary terms. In other words, this is a system that evolved late in our species’ development and is thus fairly unique to humans. It also happens to mature last in our individual development, with restructuring continuing well into our 20s.

These parts of the brain are very ‘plastic’, meaning that they are easily shaped by experience and learning. So they are also key to the development of technique in our craft – be that in science, the arts or other fields – because they are suited to rule-based learning.

Neuroplasticity is our brain’s capacity to learn; to forge new connections between neural systems, as we practise something with our body. Professional singers and actors do daily vocal exercises, dancers do daily barre exercises – the same moves over and again – and musicians are known for their neverending scales practice that drives neighbours up the wall. What may seem a strange, repetitive, even boring activity that artists, scientists and other creatives engage in daily is in fact doing magic to their brains.

Repeating something consciously – in this context meaning exercising those prefrontal systems of the brain – is quite effortful, and it needs a lot of energy and attentional resources. Therefore, our brain starts to forge connections that let the movements we’re practising pass from explicit, effortful memory systems into implicit, almost automatic memory systems.

The Romantic painter J M W Turner, well known for his wild seascapes, continued attending life-drawing classes at the Royal Academy where he’d been a student, to practise the basic moves of his craft. In so doing, he kept exercising the fine motor skill needed to draw. Slowly, connections were made between different neural systems; Turner’s skill was powered not only by explicit, effortful connections of the prefrontal systems but also, ultimately, by implicit, procedural memory systems and enabled flow.

To investigate the contribution to creative expression of those rule-loving prefrontal systems and the deeper, feeling-based systems, a team of researchers from Drexel University in Philadelphia invited two groups of jazz musicians – one made up of novices, the other, of professional jazz musicians – to a brain-stimulation experiment. Jazz musicians are known to pour their heart into their strings in spectacular improv sessions, ‘feeling it’ and finding flow. In the experiment at Drexel University, transcranial direct current stimulation (tDCS) was used to introduce a little extra electric energy, via a coil held close to the brain, into the prefrontal systems of the musicians while they were playing.

Now – remember what you now know about the brains of experts. Regular technique practice allows us to tap into our skill, without having to think about it, because the skill has passed into implicit procedural memory systems in our brain. What do you think will happen if we now introduce extra energy into experts’ prefrontal systems?

Creatives who invite regular technique practice into their life will experience their art as second nature

Results showed that introducing extra energy into the rule-based systems pulled experts away from their intuitive expression. They performed worse. In contrast, the novices’ performance improved under this treatment. Clearly, the novices were still relying on those rule-based, logical brain systems to perform ‘correctly’ – therefore, introducing more energy into these systems helped them with their performance.

This works a bit like learning a new language. First, we learn the words, the basic grammar, and we make many mistakes. It is effortful and we have to think before uttering any sentence at all. But as we repeat the words, practise verbal tenses and vocabulary over and over, our brain realises the repetition and transports the skill of that new language from explicit to implicit memory systems. That’s when we start to express and create entire new sentences with that new language: one fine day, you may even understand a poem in that new language. Creatives who invite regular technique practice into their life will experience their art as second nature and a means to expression.

‘Talent’ is never enough for true brilliance. You do need technique practice to forge the right pathways in your brain.

That’s why the advice to ‘just let go’, ‘be in the present’ and ‘feel it’ are unhelpful to find flow. When flow happens to you, it may well feel magical, it might feel like you’re ‘letting go’. You feel a strange fusion of your movements and your awareness, and you’re somehow entirely enwrapped in the present. It’s still early days to say exactly how this works, but it has to do with those low-level, implicit memory systems that encode movements that we internalise with technique practice. Then, the prefrontal systems deactivate while we let the implicit motor memory systems do their job. That’s when you use that skill to express and find flow.

But this is a neural process that happens outside of your conscious awareness, you can’t do this at will.

If you’re able to write and read, you already have one potential flow tool at your disposal: you no longer have to think about writing a word, or deciphering my writing, letter by letter, as you read. Your writing and reading skills are firmly anchored in your implicit memory systems and you can effortlessly use them to express and to find flow. Many people experience flow while reading a book, as research led by Birte A K Thissen shows. And decades of biopsychological research by James Pennebaker and his team from the University of Texas at Austin has shown that expressive writing can lead to improvements in immune markers and wound healing, fewer doctor visits in a six-month follow-up period, and a lighter, happier mood overall. Expressive writing is a technique by which you write for some 15-20 minutes two to three times per week. While writing, you should focus on what you feel – and express that. Importantly, you should plan not to show what you write or create to anyone, due to the social injury risks of disclosure. Don’t, unless you know that the recipient of your vulnerable writing is worthy of your trust. Your flow-tool must be, and remain, your safe-space. Risk of hurt will root you firmly in the present and prevent you from finding flow.

How do we create a flow-tool for creative behaviours that we haven’t been using since mid-childhood, like reading and writing? Well, start with technique practice and copying. As scientists, we ask about the mechanism. Our brain creates habit-loops when it learns stuff. In neuroscientific terms, habits are action-based associations between a cue, an action and a reward.

The first step in achieving flow is understanding that the senses act as channels to the brain, then surrounding our senses with the right cues. For little time windows in our day, we should create cue-spaces that are conducive to flow. This means hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting and touching cues that will make our mind flow, including also maybe modifying the space we’re in (triggering our exteroception), the movements of our body (proprioception) and the feelings that rise to our awareness from within (eg, when what we eat, smell, etc trigger our interoception). As we repeat this experience, our brain forms conditioned neural links between these cues and the feeling of flow.

It’s like switching on your brain’s energy-saving autopilot

Of course, it isn’t as easy as that from a neuroscientific point of view, and there is a lot that we still don’t know. But, for argument’s sake, let’s imagine this process like a golden thread between a cue and a memory stored in your memory systems that sit safely tucked away behind your temples. Now, each time this cue emerges before your senses, it swings a little lasso and, through receptors all over your body (in your eyes, nose, skin, etc) and long ganglia (nerve cells) – its lasso reaches into your brain and hooks on to its very special knob within your memory systems. Then, the cue pulls at the knob, and your mind follows in the direction of the memory encoded there, and off you go, back into flow. Because that feeling was encoded with the memory of that cue, your mind already knows the way. This happens each time a pianist touches the keys of their piano, a painter sees their pigment, or a ballet dancer hears their practice music.

The trick is to turn these cues into what I call ‘pathway prompts’ – little signals that help your brain slip into flow mode naturally, without needing to think about it. It’s like switching on your brain’s energy-saving autopilot.

For my own writing habit, I rely on cues that appeal to my senses and trigger familiar rhythms in my brain. I write in the mornings, when my body feels sensitive from just waking up. I drink coffee – the taste, smell, warmth and sound all tune me in. I sit in a café – the buzz of the place grounds me. I write on a laptop I use only for writing – it’s familiar, and signals ‘It’s time to focus.’

That’s my writing cue-scape – a set of sensory triggers that gently steer me into flow.

What’s yours?

Acertain level of mastery makes it easier to find flow with your activity. In neural terms, ‘mastery’ is when the skill starts passing into the implicit, procedural memory systems. This will trigger the ‘skills-challenge principle’, where your chosen activity is neither too easy, nor too hard, all the better to absorb your attention.

‘Aren’t you done learning all those dance movements yet, Julia?’ one grumpy uncle of mine once said, while he loaded up a huge piece of cake onto his plate. I nibbled at my carrot and smiled at him. The ceiling is unlimited, and you can always keep learning and improving your artistic skill. The secret is, you’ll never be ‘done’ learning to dance, draw, write, play an instrument. And thankfully so – with art at hand, you’ll never be bored, you’ll always have something new to learn, discover and conquer: a new move, a new aesthetic. That movement on repeat, which has become so much you with time and repetition, will always bring you back to you, to your wonderful self.

Identify a flow-tool that matches your need for stimulation. Give your brain a respite from the unpredictability of life

Besides, repetitive movement practices have a wonderful side-effect if used well: they remove uncertainty from our brain. Uncertainty is part of all our lives to a larger or lesser extent; and it is among the chief killers of our calm. Csikszentmihalyi stated that being in flow makes us escape from the unpredictability of life. Technique practice offers the space to start on that journey, because repetitive movements – as when we practise an artistic skill like drawing, dancing, music-making or knitting – are washing machines for minds. Life is unpredictable, and our senses can’t always find something recognisable to cling to. When our ability to predict is weakened and our brain is put on alert, this mind-absorbing state can make us feel miserable. We can regain our footing by controlling our surroundings or other people, but if flow is what we seek, we’ll fail. What we need instead are routines in our day to create habits of wellbeing in our mind, because our brain will, during those periods of routine, know exactly what’s going to happen next.

After a while, of course, routines are boring. That’s why I suggest we all identify a flow-tool that matches our need for stimulation too. With a creative practice that is right for you, you’ll be building the right movement habits in your brain to make your art your second nature so you can find expression. At the same time, you’ll also be giving your brain a respite from the unpredictability of life.

Place those pathway prompts strategically in your surroundings – and off you go, flow.


Julia F Christensen

is a postdoctoral research fellow at the Warburg Institute, London. She is the co-author of Dancing Is the Best Medicine (2021) and the author of The Pathway to Flow (2025).





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- New note - On 1807.06, I ceased daily transmission of my Hey Mom feature after three years of daily conversations. I post Hey Mom blog entries on special occasions. I post the days since ("Days Ago") count on my blog each day, and now I have a second count for Days since my Dad died on August 28, 2024. I am now in the same time zone as Google! So, when I post at 10:10 a.m. PDT to coincide with the time of Mom's death, I am now actually posting late, so it's really 1:10 p.m. EDT. But I will continue to use the time stamp of 10:10 a.m. to remember the time of her death and sometimes 13:40 EDT for the time of Dad's death. The blog entry numbering in the title has changed to reflect total Sense of Doubt posts since I began the blog on 0705.04, which include Hey Mom posts, Daily Bowie posts, and Sense of Doubt posts. Hey Mom posts will still be numbered sequentially. New Hey Mom posts will use the same format as all the other Hey Mom posts; all other posts will feature this format seen here.

Wednesday, August 6, 2025

A Sense of Doubt blog post #3823 - Reflections on Getting Things Done (GTD) Part One



A Sense of Doubt blog post #3818 - Reflections on Getting Things Done (GTD)  Part One

I started reading the book Getting Things Done - The Art of Stress Free Productivity by David Allen because I felt I could improve my systems as I juggle more and more complex combinations of jobs.

I learned of the book from an article by one of my favorite writers and people: Cory Doctorow.

Often people believe that the major or only motivation for reading a book like this (and I am reading by listening to the audio that came with a PDF document) is "what can I learn from this?"

And yet, a possibly even more important motivator to read a book like this is "What's in it that I am ALREADY doing?"

And this is not unusual.

Allen reports what some readers have shared in his book. Some feel that the entire book is worth just one idea to adjust their own process.

That's my big takeaway, too.

I am happy to say that I do a lot of what's in the book. I capture tasks, sort them, and work from a to-do list of short term goals, daily and weekly tasks, and longer term goals/tasks. 

The thing I liked best about the book is the classification of the task and what the next steps are. If the task is easy and takes only a few minutes, then do it right away, like answering a simple email. Bigger projects have first steps, often research, capture those tasks and organize.

I have read recently that Warren Ellis is using AI devices to capture research tasks. He can literally say out loud to one of these devices (apparently he has two, not sure why) to research something and email the results to him for reviewing later. I love this idea. I am just not sure that I have enough need for such a thing to invest in an AI device. I have enough devices.

Here's Doctorow on GTD.

Thanks for tuning in!







Science fiction author Cory Doctorow touched on GTD in one of his recent posts on his website, Pluralistic: Keeping a suspense file gives you superpowers

I found it a great read on the power of the Agendas list—which he calls a Suspense File—and thought to share. I especially liked some points he made:


I'm definitely guilty of de-prioritizing this list, with the mentality of "well it's on their todo list, it's their fault if it doesn't happen"... but then I'm unhappy it doesn't happen, and reading this made me realize I also have a responsibility in seeing it through, even if the ball isn't currently in my court.

Anyway, would love to hear everyone's thoughts on this post. I'm certainly going to refocus my Agendas list into a priority list and not a backburner one.

https://doctorow.medium.com/https-pluralistic-net-2024-10-26-one-weird-trick-todo-txt-3a58188ba241



Two decades ago, I was part of a group of nerds who got really interested in how each other managed to do what we did. The effort was kicked off by Danny O’Brien, who called it “Lifehacking” and I played a small role in getting that term popularized:

https://craphound.com/lifehacksetcon04.txt

While we were all devoted to sharing tips and tricks from our own lives, many of us converged on an outside expert, David Allen, and his bestselling book “Getting Things Done” (GTD, to those in the know):

https://gettingthingsdone.com/

GTD is a collection of relatively simple tactics for coping with, prioritizing, and organizing the things you want to do. Many of the methods relate to organizing your own projects, using a handful of context-based to-do lists (e.g. a list of things to do at the office, at home, while waiting in line, etc). These lists consist of simple tasks. Those tasks are, in turn, derived from another list, of “projects” — things that require more than one task, which can be anything from planning dinner to writing a novel to helping your kid apply to university.

The point of all this list-making isn’t to do everything on the lists. While these lists do help you remember what to do next, what they’re really good for is deciding what not to do — at all. The promise of GTD is that it will help you consciously choose not to do some of the things you set out to accomplish. This is in contrast to how most of us operate: we have a bunch of things we want to do, and we end up doing the things that are easiest, or at top of mind, even if they’re not the most important things.

GTD recognizes that you can be very “productive” (in the sense of getting many things done) and still not do the things that you really wanted to do. You know what this is like: you finish a Sunday with an organized sock-drawer, all your pennies neatly rolled, the trash-can in your car emptied…and no work at all on that novel you’re hoping to write.

You can’t do everything, but you can control what you don’t do, rather than just defaulting into completing a string of trivial, meaningless tasks and leaving the big stuff on the sidelines. Organizing your own tasks and projects is a hugely powerful habit, and one that’s made a world of difference to my personal and professional life.

But while good to-do lists can take you very far in life, they have a hard limit: other people. Almost every ambitious thing you want to do involves someone else’s contribution. Even the most solitary of projects can be derailed if your tax accountant misses a key email and you end up getting audited or paying a huge penalty.

That’s where the other kind of GTD list comes in: the list of things you’re waiting for from other people. I used to be assiduous in maintaining this list, but then the pandemic struck and no one was meeting any of their commitments, and I just gave up on it, and never went back…until about a month ago. Returning to these lists (they’re sometimes called “suspense files”) made me realize how many of the problems — some hugely consequential — in my life could have been avoided if I’d just gone back to this habit earlier.

My suspense file is literally just some lines partway down a text file that lives on my desktop called todo.txt that has all my to-dos as well. Here’s some sample entries from my suspense file:

WAITING EMAIL Sean about ENSHITTIIFCATION manuscript deadline 10/24/24
WAITING EMAIL Russ about missing royalty statement 10/12/24
WAITING EMAIL Alice about Christmas vacation hotel 10/8/24 10/20/24
WAITING EMAIL Ted about Sacramento event 8/12/24 9/5/24 10/5/24 10/20/24

WAITING CALL LA County about mosquito abatement 10/25/24
WAITING CALL School attendance officer about London trip 10/18/24

WAITING MONEY EFF reimbusement for taxi to staff retreat $34.98 10/7/24

WAITING SHIPMENT New Neal Stephenson novel from Bookshop.org 10/23/24

This is as simple as things could possibly be! I literally just type “WAITING,” then a space, then the category of thing I’m waiting for, then a few specifics, then the date. When I follow up on an item, I add the date of the followup to the end of the line. If I get some details that I might need to reference later (say, a tracking code for a shipment, or a date for an event I’m trying to organize), I’ll add that, too, as it comes up. Creating a new entry on this list takes 10–25 seconds. When someone gets back to me, I just delete that line.

That is literally it.

Every day, or sometimes a couple of times a day, I will just run my eyes up and down this list and see if there’s anything that’s unreasonably overdue, and then I’ll send a reminder or make a followup call. In the example above, you can see that I’ve been chasing Ted about Sacramento for months now (this is a fake entry — no plans to go to Sacto at the moment, sorry):

WAITING EMAIL Ted about Sacramento event 8/12/24 9/5/24 10/5/24 10/20/24

So now I’ve emailed Ted four times. Maybe my email’s going to his spam, and so I could try emailing a friend of Ted and ask them to check whether he’s getting my messages. But maybe Ted’s trying to send me a message here — he’s just not interested in doing the event after all. Or maybe Ted is available, but he’s so snowed under that he’s in danger of fumbling it, and I need to bring in some help if I want it to happen.

All of these are possibilities, and the fact that I’m tracking this means that I now get to make an active decision: cancel the gig or double down on making sure it happens. Without this list, the gig would just die by default, forgotten by both of us. Maybe that’s OK, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve run into someone who said, “Dammit, I just remembered I was supposed to email you about getting that thing done and I dropped the ball. Shit! I really was looking forward to that. Is it too late now?” Often it is too late. Even if it’s not, the work of picking up the pieces and starting over is much more than just following through on the original plan.

Restarting my suspense file made me realize how many of the (often expensive or painful) fumbles I’ve had since the pandemic were the result of me not noticing that someone else hadn’t gotten back to me. In essence, a suspense file is a way for me to manage other people’s to-do lists.

Let me unpack that. By “managing other people’s to-do lists,” I don’t mean that I’m deciding for other people what they will and won’t do (that would be both weird and gross). I mean that I’m making sure that if someone else fails to do something we were planning together, it’s because they decided not to do it, not because they forgot. As GTD teaches us, the real point of a to-do list isn’t just helping us remember what to do — it’s helping us choose what we’re not going to do.

This is not an imposition, it’s a kindness. The point of a suspense file isn’t to nag others into living up to their commitments, it’s to form a network of support among collaborators where we all help one another make those conscious choices about what we’re not going to do, rather than having the stuff we really value slip away because we forgot about it.

I have frequent collaborators whom I know to be incapable of juggling too many things at once, and my suspense file has helped me hone my sense of when it would be appropriate to ask them if they want to do something together and when to leave them be. The suspense file helps me dial in how much I rely on each person in my life (relying on someone isn’t the same as valuing them — and indeed, one way to value someone is to only rely on them for things they’re able to do, rather than putting them in a position of feeling bad for failing you).

Lifehacking gets a bad rap, and justifiably so. Many of the tips that traffick as “lifehacks” are trivial or stupid or both. What’s more, too much lifehacking can paint you into a corner where you’ve hacked any flexibility out of your life:

https://locusmag.com/2017/11/cory-doctorow-how-to-do-everything-lifehacking-considered-harmful/

But ever since Danny coined the term “lifehack,” back in 2004, I’ve been cultivating daily habits that have let me live the life I wanted to live, accomplishing the things I wanted to accomplish. I figured out how to turn daily writing into a habit and now I’ve written more than 30 books:

https://www.locusmag.com/Features/2009/01/cory-doctorow-writing-in-age-of.html

A daily habit of opening a huge, ever-tweaked collection of tabs has made me smarter about the news, helped me keep tabs on my friends, helped me find fraudsters who were trying to steal my identity, and ensured that all those Kickstarter rewards and other long-delayed, erratic shipments didn’t slip through the cracks:

https://pluralistic.net/2024/01/25/today-in-tabs/#unfucked-rota

Daily habits are superpowers. Once something is a habit, you get it for free. GTD turns on decomposing big, daunting projects into bite-sized, trackable tasks. I have a bunch of spaces around the house — my office, my closet, the junk sheds down the side of the house, our tiki bar — that I used to clean out once or twice a year. Each one was all-day, sweaty, dirty job, and for most of the year, all of those spaces were a dusty, disorganized mess.

A month ago, I added a new daily task: spend five minutes cleaning one space. I did the bar first, and after two weeks, I’d taken down every tchotchke and bottle and polished it, reorganizing the undercounter spaces where things pile up:

https://www.flickr.com/search/?user_id=37996580417%40N01&sort=date-taken-desc&text=tiki+bar&view_all=1

Now I’m working through my office. Ever day, I’m dusting a bookshelf and combing through it for discards to stick in our Little Free Library. Takes less than five minutes most day, and I’ll be done in about three weeks, when I’ll move on to my closet, then the side of the house, and then back to the bar. A daily short break where I get away from my computer and make my living and working environments nicer is a wonderful habit to cultivate.

I’m 53 years old now. I was 33 when I started following Getting Things Done. In that time, I’ve gotten a lot done, but what’s even more relevant is that I didn’t get a ton of things done — things that I consciously chose not to abandon. Figuring out what you want to do, and then keeping it on track — in manageable, healthy, daily rhythms that bring along the other people you rely on — may not be the whole secret to a fulfilled life, but it’s certainly a part of it.




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- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 2508.01 - 10:10

- Days ago: MOM = 3683 days ago & DAD = 337 days ago

- New note - On 1807.06, I ceased daily transmission of my Hey Mom feature after three years of daily conversations. I post Hey Mom blog entries on special occasions. I post the days since ("Days Ago") count on my blog each day, and now I have a second count for Days since my Dad died on August 28, 2024. I am now in the same time zone as Google! So, when I post at 10:10 a.m. PDT to coincide with the time of Mom's death, I am now actually posting late, so it's really 1:10 p.m. EDT. But I will continue to use the time stamp of 10:10 a.m. to remember the time of her death and sometimes 13:40 EDT for the time of Dad's death. The blog entry numbering in the title has changed to reflect total Sense of Doubt posts since I began the blog on 0705.04, which include Hey Mom posts, Daily Bowie posts, and Sense of Doubt posts. Hey Mom posts will still be numbered sequentially. New Hey Mom posts will use the same format as all the other Hey Mom posts; all other posts will feature this format seen here.

Monday, March 17, 2025

A Sense of Doubt blog post #3681 - Brush the Cobwebs of the Sky - Music Monday Mix for 2503.17



A Sense of Doubt blog post #3681 - Brush the Cobwebs of the Sky - Music Monday Mix for 2503.17

Another new mix!

Something that kind of grew out of the most recent mix that really responded to the election in many ways though not in all ways.


It starts and ends with Radiohead's "Sail to the Moon" from Hail to the Thief, which is also where the title comes from.

There's more Radiohead in the mix but mostly in the form of the side project THE SMILE.

I think the first six cuts really work well together, especially the flow from Radiohead's "Sail to the Moon," The Smile's "Speech Bubbles," and David Bowie's "Some Are" in a set of three and then a pause for the circus barker who opens "Live With Me" by Massive Attack and the devastating video of extreme alcohol abuse.

Two more Massive Attack songs follow though not immediately. There's also the great interjection of "The Kiss" by the Cure (at #8, which is significant as I will explain) with its driving guitars between "The Spoils" by Massive Attack with Hope Sandoval and David Bowie's throbbing synths of "All Saints" before the lull of Tracey Thorn's vocals on "Protection," the last of the Massive Attack songs in the mix. I return to Hope Sandoval with "Trouble" joined by her band the Warm Inventions.

There's two by björk, two by Nightmares on Wax, two by Portishead, two by Moby, and two by Goldfrapp, which is intentional.

The William Orbit produced song from Beth Orton off her first album is a gem that slips in here nicely as are single tracks by Can, Thievery Corporation, Zero 7, and Sigur Ros.

There are 28 tracks to pair with "The Kiss" at number eight for my father, who passed away on 8/28/24, and the 200th day since his death was yesterday.

It's not possible to make a mix of "protest" songs, of music completely relevant in all ways to the destruction our country is experiencing under white supremacist, Christian Nationalist, patriarchal, fascist rule.

These are songs for coping, for trying to get by, for remembering the good things, for their energy, their raw, emotional weight.

Thanks for tuning in.

BTW, yes, that's a picture of a van painted with the cover art of Radiohead's Hail to the Thief. I found it on the Internet. I did not find it in the wild on my own.



Brush the Cobwebs of the Sky Music Mix 




Brush the Cobwebs of the Sky Mix - TRACK LIST

[1] Sail To The Moon Radiohead
[2] Speech Bubbles The Smile
[3] David Bowie - Some Are
[4] Massive Attack - Live With Me
[5] Radiohead - A Wolf at the Door
[6] Moby - 'The Last Day' ft. Skylar Grey (Official Video)
[7] Massive Attack - The Spoils ft. Hope Sandoval
[8] The Cure - the kiss
[9] All Saints (2001 Remaster) David Bowie
[10] Massive Attack - Protection
[11] björk : army of me (HD)
[12] Portishead - Glory Box
[13] Goldfrapp - Everything Is Never Enough (Official Video)
[14] Beth Orton - She Cries Your Name (Video)
[15] Zero 7 - Home (Official Video) ft. Tina Dico
[16] The Smile - The Opposite
[17] björk : human behaviour (HD)
[18] CAN - Vitamin C (Official Audio)
[19] The Smile - Open The Floodgates (Live at Magazine, January 2022)
[20] Goldfrapp - Stranger (Official Video)
[21] Nightmares on Wax - Les Nuits
[22] Until The Morning - The Richest Man In Babylon Thievery Corporation
[23] Nightmares on Wax - You Wish
[24] Moby - This Wild Darkness (Official Video)
[25] Hope Sandoval and The Warm Inventions - Trouble [Official Music Video]
[26] Portishead - Numb (Official Video)
[27] Sigur Ros - Glósóli [Official Music Video - 4K]
[28] Radiohead acoustic - Sail To The Moon / I Will [HD]








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- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 2503.17 - 10:10

- Days ago: MOM = 3546 days ago & DAD = 201 days ago

- New note - On 1807.06, I ceased daily transmission of my Hey Mom feature after three years of daily conversations. I post Hey Mom blog entries on special occasions. I post the days since ("Days Ago") count on my blog each day, and now I have a second count for Days since my Dad died on August 28, 2024. I am now in the same time zone as Google! So, when I post at 10:10 a.m. PDT to coincide with the time of Mom's death, I am now actually posting late, so it's really 1:10 p.m. EDT. But I will continue to use the time stamp of 10:10 a.m. to remember the time of her death and sometimes 13:40 EDT for the time of Dad's death. The blog entry numbering in the title has changed to reflect total Sense of Doubt posts since I began the blog on 0705.04, which include Hey Mom posts, Daily Bowie posts, and Sense of Doubt posts. Hey Mom posts will still be numbered sequentially. New Hey Mom posts will use the same format as all the other Hey Mom posts; all other posts will feature this format seen here.