A Sense of Doubt blog post #2785 - Thirteenth Wedding Anniversary - 2022
Another year.
I still consider myself the luckiest guy on the planet to have found this kind of love.
A Sense of Doubt blog post #1320 - Ninth Wedding Anniversary
Nine years ago, I married my wife. I was on top of the world. I felt like the luckiest man in the whole world.
That feeling has persisted.
Marrying my wife is the best and smartest thing I have ever done.
I work every day to be worthy of her.
Sometimes, I succeed.
I am keeping this simple.
Our song, and my favorite love poem that I am sharing with my students today.
somewhere i have never travelled, gladly beyond –
e e cummings (1894 – 1962)
somewhere i have never travelled, gladly beyond
any experience, your eyes have their silence:
in your most frail gesture are things which enclose me,
or which i cannot touch because they are too near
your slightest look easily will unclose me
though i have closed myself as fingers,
you open always petal by petal myself as Spring opens
(touching skillfully, mysteriously)her first rose
or if your wish be to close me, i and
my life will shut very beautifully ,suddenly,
as when the heart of this flower imagines
the snow carefully everywhere descending;
nothing which we are to perceive in this world equals
the power of your intense fragility: whose texture
compels me with the color of its countries,
rendering death and forever with each breathing
(i do not know what it is about you that closes
and opens; only something in me understands
the voice of your eyes is deeper than all roses)
nobody, not even the rain, has such small hands
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- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1810.03 - 10:10
- Days ago = 1187 days ago
Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #89 - Sixth wedding anniversary
Hi Mom,
Six years ago today, I did the smartest thing I have ever done. I married Liesel Creager, who took my last name, because she says it's cool, and she became Liesel Tower.
As you know, Mom, because we talk about it so much, I cannot imagine life without Liesel, now. She is the love of my life, the greatest relationship of my life, the longest relationship of my life, and the last relationship of my life.
She is my sun and stars.
She is my everything.
There was a time, not that long ago, when I thought I would never find any one to love again, let alone marry. I was very depressed in the 2000s. I had some relationships, and for a time, I was in love. But nothing measured up to most of my previous romances, and the new experiences I was having were becoming fewer with farther time between. I could see them ultimately stopping entirely. I saw my life as a shut in care giver, taking care of you, Mom, after Dad died, managing everything in your life, and when you passed, ending up alone with a lot of medical equipment and a lot of care giver experience.
But that's not what happened.
I met Liesel.
Technically, we re-met as we had met in 1990. Everyone who saw me on the day we re-met, some time in early December of 2008, will attest that I was flying higher than ever since I had just met the woman of my dreams, who knew my name and promised to friend me on Facebook. It took her 26 hours and 34 minutes to send the friend request.
Last night, as we celebrated our sixth wedding anniversary in a very low key way, I realized that the decision to marry Liesel went counter to how I usually make decisions. I like to agonize over big decisions. I may take months to buy a pair of shoes or anything I perceive as "big." But I told Liesel I would marry her the first time the subject came up in conversation, almost exactly two months after we started dating. A month later, I asked her officially, and seven months later we were married.
It was right. It is right.
It is true and real and perfect.
I did not need to agonize about it. I knew in the core of my soul that it was the right thing to do.
I love Liesel more today than I did yesterday. I will love her more tomorrow than I do today. Our relationship evolves. We do not always agree. But we have chosen to move forward together, and when we are together, it's like nothing else matters, which is kind of the whole point of love, right? Oh, and there's a puppy and some kids and a cat, but those are stories for another time.
Mom, we have talked a lot about Liesel and all the wonderfulness that makes her who she is.
But we never really talked much about how I would need her so very much once you, Mom, were gone.
Not that Liesel is a replacement for you, Mom. It's not like that.
You're my mother; Liesel is my wife.
These are quite distinct relationships.
But Liesel gives me a strong foundation upon which I may rely, have faith, and see through adversity.
We both knew that your death, Mom, would be difficult for me. Liesel believed I would completely fall apart and be inconsolable. She was pleased that I did not become a total basket case.
But I need Liesel to help me through this time. She went through it also, having lost her mother years ago. And she is my wife, and she loves me, and I need that love, more than ever. For the record, Liesel has been just great, evrything I need and more.
Thank you, Liesel, my love, for marrying me six years ago, for staying married to me for six years, and for holding my hand -- or holding all of me -- as I cope with the loss of a parent.
Thank you for being my partner, my equal, my best friend, my confidante, my lover, my adviser, my supporter, my personal DJ, my companion, my guide, my inspiration, and my soul mate. I am learning to live without you, Mom. I could not learn to live without Liesel.
Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.
Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.
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- Days ago = 91 days ago
- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1510.03 - 18:15
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Sunday, October 3, 2021
A Sense of Doubt blog post #2420 - TWELFTH Wedding Anniversary
Today is our wedding anniversary...
I almost typed "wedding" anniversary. :-)
Blog Vacation 2021 Post #31
In this blog vacation, I am alternating between reprints, shares with little to no commentary, and THAT ONE THING, which is an image from the folder with a few thoughts scribbled along with it. I am alternating these three modes for twenty days, pre-publishing the posts, and not pushing any of them to social media.
LOW POWER MODE: I sometimes put the blog in what I call LOW POWER MODE. If you see this note, the blog is operating like a sleeping computer, maintaining static memory, but making no new computations. If I am in low power mode, it's because I do not have time to do much that's inventive, original, or even substantive on the blog. This means I am posting straight shares, limited content posts, reprints, often something qualifying for the THAT ONE THING category and other easy to make posts to keep me daily. That's the deal. Thanks for reading.
Nine years ago, I married my wife. I was on top of the world. I felt like the luckiest man in the whole world.
That feeling has persisted.
Marrying my wife is the best and smartest thing I have ever done.
I work every day to be worthy of her.
Sometimes, I succeed.
I am keeping this simple.
Our song, and my favorite love poem that I am sharing with my students today.
somewhere i have never travelled, gladly beyond –
e e cummings (1894 – 1962)
somewhere i have never travelled, gladly beyond
any experience, your eyes have their silence:
in your most frail gesture are things which enclose me,
or which i cannot touch because they are too near
your slightest look easily will unclose me
though i have closed myself as fingers,
you open always petal by petal myself as Spring opens
(touching skillfully, mysteriously)her first rose
or if your wish be to close me, i and
my life will shut very beautifully ,suddenly,
as when the heart of this flower imagines
the snow carefully everywhere descending;
nothing which we are to perceive in this world equals
the power of your intense fragility: whose texture
compels me with the color of its countries,
rendering death and forever with each breathing
(i do not know what it is about you that closes
and opens; only something in me understands
the voice of your eyes is deeper than all roses)
nobody, not even the rain, has such small hands
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- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1810.03 - 10:10
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Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #454 - To my Wife, Happy Anniversary - Musical Monday 1610.03
Hi Mom,
I really love this picture. Granted, it's the same one I posted on Facebook today, but I really love it, so here it is again.
I promised Liesel less hoopla, so I won't go on an on about how amazing she is, how marrying her was the smartest thing I ever did, how blessed and fortunate I am to share life with Liesel, how much I love her, and so on. I said many of those things last year. Click this link to read that -
2015 - Sixth Anniversary.
There's also a LIESEL category with about seven posts, including this one, so you can find that indexed along the right side of the page and read more or even navigate to the T-shirts blog where I also had a Liesel category. I embedded the link to the T-shirts Liesel category there in her name, see that, Mom?
So, since today is our seventh wedding anniversary AND my usual Musical Monday, here's our TWO songs and just our TWO songs.
Thank you for marrying me, Liesel. I look forward to many more glorious years.
Mom, I wish you were here to see them.
"We will wade in the shine of the ever..."
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- Days ago = 456 days ago
- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1610.03 - 16:00
Hi Mom,
I really love this picture. Granted, it's the same one I posted on Facebook today, but I really love it, so here it is again.
I promised Liesel less hoopla, so I won't go on an on about how amazing she is, how marrying her was the smartest thing I ever did, how blessed and fortunate I am to share life with Liesel, how much I love her, and so on. I said many of those things last year. Click this link to read that -
2015 - Sixth Anniversary.
There's also a LIESEL category with about seven posts, including this one, so you can find that indexed along the right side of the page and read more or even navigate to the T-shirts blog where I also had a Liesel category. I embedded the link to the T-shirts Liesel category there in her name, see that, Mom?
So, since today is our seventh wedding anniversary AND my usual Musical Monday, here's our TWO songs and just our TWO songs.
Thank you for marrying me, Liesel. I look forward to many more glorious years.
Mom, I wish you were here to see them.
"We will wade in the shine of the ever..."
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- Days ago = 456 days ago
- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1610.03 - 16:00
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originally:
Hey, Mom! Talking to My Mother #89 - Sixth wedding anniversary
Hi Mom,Six years ago today, I did the smartest thing I have ever done. I married Liesel Creager, who took my last name, because she says it's cool, and she became Liesel Tower.
As you know, Mom, because we talk about it so much, I cannot imagine life without Liesel, now. She is the love of my life, the greatest relationship of my life, the longest relationship of my life, and the last relationship of my life.
She is my sun and stars.
She is my everything.
There was a time, not that long ago, when I thought I would never find any one to love again, let alone marry. I was very depressed in the 2000s. I had some relationships, and for a time, I was in love. But nothing measured up to most of my previous romances, and the new experiences I was having were becoming fewer with farther time between. I could see them ultimately stopping entirely. I saw my life as a shut in care giver, taking care of you, Mom, after Dad died, managing everything in your life, and when you passed, ending up alone with a lot of medical equipment and a lot of care giver experience.
But that's not what happened.
I met Liesel.
Technically, we re-met as we had met in 1990. Everyone who saw me on the day we re-met, some time in early December of 2008, will attest that I was flying higher than ever since I had just met the woman of my dreams, who knew my name and promised to friend me on Facebook. It took her 26 hours and 34 minutes to send the friend request.
Last night, as we celebrated our sixth wedding anniversary in a very low key way, I realized that the decision to marry Liesel went counter to how I usually make decisions. I like to agonize over big decisions. I may take months to buy a pair of shoes or anything I perceive as "big." But I told Liesel I would marry her the first time the subject came up in conversation, almost exactly two months after we started dating. A month later, I asked her officially, and seven months later we were married.
It was right. It is right.
It is true and real and perfect.
I did not need to agonize about it. I knew in the core of my soul that it was the right thing to do.
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| celebrating our 4th anniversary in 2013 |
Mom, we have talked a lot about Liesel and all the wonderfulness that makes her who she is.
But we never really talked much about how I would need her so very much once you, Mom, were gone.
Not that Liesel is a replacement for you, Mom. It's not like that.
You're my mother; Liesel is my wife.
These are quite distinct relationships.
But Liesel gives me a strong foundation upon which I may rely, have faith, and see through adversity.
We both knew that your death, Mom, would be difficult for me. Liesel believed I would completely fall apart and be inconsolable. She was pleased that I did not become a total basket case.
But I need Liesel to help me through this time. She went through it also, having lost her mother years ago. And she is my wife, and she loves me, and I need that love, more than ever. For the record, Liesel has been just great, evrything I need and more.
Thank you, Liesel, my love, for marrying me six years ago, for staying married to me for six years, and for holding my hand -- or holding all of me -- as I cope with the loss of a parent.
Thank you for being my partner, my equal, my best friend, my confidante, my lover, my adviser, my supporter, my personal DJ, my companion, my guide, my inspiration, and my soul mate. I am learning to live without you, Mom. I could not learn to live without Liesel.
Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you.
Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.
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- Days ago = 91 days ago
- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1510.03 - 18:15
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- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 2110.03 - 10:10
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- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 2110.03 - 10:10
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- New note - On 1807.06, I ceased daily transmission of my Hey Mom feature after three years of daily conversations. I plan to continue Hey Mom posts at least twice per week but will continue to post the days since ("Days Ago") count on my blog each day. The blog entry numbering in the title has changed to reflect total Sense of Doubt posts since I began the blog on 0705.04, which include Hey Mom posts, Daily Bowie posts, and Sense of Doubt posts. Hey Mom posts will still be numbered sequentially. New Hey Mom posts will use the same format as all the other Hey Mom posts; all other posts will feature this format seen here.
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- New note - On 1807.06, I ceased daily transmission of my Hey Mom feature after three years of daily conversations. I plan to continue Hey Mom posts at least twice per week but will continue to post the days since ("Days Ago") count on my blog each day. The blog entry numbering in the title has changed to reflect total Sense of Doubt posts since I began the blog on 0705.04, which include Hey Mom posts, Daily Bowie posts, and Sense of Doubt posts. Hey Mom posts will still be numbered sequentially. New Hey Mom posts will use the same format as all the other Hey Mom posts; all other posts will feature this format seen here.
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