A Sense of Doubt blog post #3822 - The 3-Word Phrase That Makes People Instantly Like You (Backed by Psychology)

A Sense of Doubt blog post #3822 - The 3-Word Phrase That Makes People Instantly Like You (Backed by Psychology)

This seems a bit like (though not exactly like) Neuro-linguistic programming.

Regardless, it is one of the key practices of a therapist and one people can use in every day conversation.

I learned many years ago that people like talking about themselves.

One of my college friends (John Locke) was very good at focusing attention on the other person and let them talk about themselves, keeping them going with interesting questions. I have never forgotten that and try to employ that wisdom in my interactions with others, though I am often very self-absorbed.

Thanks for tuning in.

The three-word phrase that can instantly improve connection is "Tell me more". This phrase encourages deeper conversations and makes people feel heard and understood. It's a simple way to show empathy and build stronger relationships. 

Elaboration:

The phrase "Tell me more" is a powerful tool for fostering connection because it encourages the other person to elaborate on their thoughts and feelings. When someone feels like they are being listened to and their perspective is valued, it creates a sense of trust and understanding. This can be particularly helpful in intimate relationships where it can be easy to get caught up in daily routines and forget to truly connect with each other. 

Here's why "Tell me more" is so effective: 

• It shows genuine interest:

  By asking someone to elaborate, you are showing that you are interested in what they have to say and what they are experiencing.
• It encourages deeper sharing:

  When people feel like they are being heard, they are more likely to open up and share their thoughts and feelings, which can lead to stronger bonds.
• It can resolve conflicts more smoothly:

  By encouraging someone to explain their perspective, you can gain a better understanding of the situation and work towards a resolution.
• It can make someone feel valued:

  When someone feels like their thoughts and feelings matter, it can have a positive impact on their self-esteem and their relationship with you.

In essence, "Tell me more" is a simple yet effective way to cultivate empathy and build stronger connections with the people in your life. 

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