Mom at Laura's wedding October 1985 also - http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2015/08/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-30-one.html |
Hi Mom,
No April Fool's prank. This is entry 1000 in the Hey Mom series and day 1002 since you passed away on July Fourth, 2015. It is also post #1135 on this blog.
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2017/07/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-728-two.html |
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I didn't do a count down either. In the T-Shorts blog, I started a countdown at some point. I am not sure when, but I see I counted down at least the last 100 entries. But the T-shirts blog had a definite end goal. I knew from the start that I was going to do 365 consecutive daily posts. With Hey Mom, I was just rolling along. Like T-shirts, I thought I would stop at one year.
One friend of mine suggested I stop around 88 entries:
Hey Mom #88 - 90 Days and 88 Blog Entries.
I was still actively grieving then, so the blog was still frequently about grief, though not exclusively. Number 86 was about apples and you, Mom. But #90 was about the end of Baseball season and number #91 was about Monday Night Football. #92 was about gender performance, and is one of the posts I am most proud of.
When I reached entry #365, I didn't make a big deal of hitting the year mark. I had already discussed my thoughts on the blog future in many entries, like this one about Memorial Day (#330).
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http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2015/07/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-15.html |
I do not want to minimize what I have gone through to learn to cope, to move on, to get to this place emotionally, Mom. I feel I have made a great deal of progress, and surely, of all the things I have done as part of the grieving process, this blog has been the best of those things. But the blog is more for me than for grief. It's an exercise in keeping writing muscles limber. It's a tool to at least publish something every day (or pretend I do when I get behind and produce four or more posts in one day). Still, it's been a healthy outlet for me.
Grief still hits me from time to time just as friends of mine warned me because they are coping with a similar loss. But for the most part, I think, I am happy and healthy.
Still, given how much I love you and how attached to you that I was, I thought I would be more devastated and more destroyed by your death. My wife actually remarked on this thing, too. Perhaps I am more resilient than I believed or maybe I was just better prepared. Because surely if you had died when you had the meningitis, and even that was less unexpected than what others have experienced in which, without warning, the life of a loved one is snuffed out leaving the emotional wreckage of survivors to try to make sense of it and move on. Really, for most tragedies of that kind, there is no making sense of it.
So, as I have confessed before, I feel some shame that I write about my loss at all compared to the much more devastating and tragic losses others experience.
But then, loss is loss.
It's difficult to quantify pain.
And yet, I don't want this blog to be about pain. I want it to be about life, my life now, our life, some focus on memories, but mainly a place for me to do whatever I want with writing, creation, and brain dump.
My tendency is to do too much, which is part of the problem.
This entry is probably already too long, and I am finishing it on Wednesday 1804.04 having started it Tuesday 1804.03. I seem to always be running behind rather than building up a cache of content and running ahead. I have a lot of material. Of 1494 total posts, 1135 are published, this is #1000 in Hey Mom, and there are 359 drafts. So I have plenty of material, and most of it is not about loss or grief or even you at all, Mom.
This is not the first time I have shared thoughts on this blog and its process. However, this is the first time I tried to share photos exclusively using the addresses to where the photos are already stored in my Google account. Google photos is a great utility, but it only seems to store photos I took with my camera on my phone and not photos that I uploaded to my blog. I know the photos are stored in My Drive but finding a way to search them quickly to find the photo I want is very time consuming, and then getting the storage URL for the jpg is not possible through Drive. At least, I can't figure it out... wait, what's this? I think I found the way to move between years. But the Drive's archive shows me when I uploaded a photo and not when I published it to the blog. It's sort of hit and miss. I found a photo that I uploaded on July 19th, 2015, but I cannot find the photo in the blog entry for the 19th. It was on the entry for the 20th, but this proximity will not always be the case.
I tracked many photos and added the links for where I found them for future reference, but I am a little disappointed that Google does not show me where I published the photo when it's in the cloud because I uploaded it via my blog.
Anyway, I sorted out some of the photo issues.
And this is the first time I am really writing about the grief process in a while.
To end this blog entry, before the rest of the favorite pictures, I want to include a few links to posts I have done that speak to loss or grief or this blog in particular that I think are good ones in case you, reader, have ventured here and read this far and want a sampler of entries to explore.
BLOG THOUGHTS AT 950
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2018/02/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-950-at-950.html
800 DAYS
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2017/09/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-798-800.html
A MASSIVE BLOG RECAP WITH MANY REPRINTS
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2017/02/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-600-focus.html
THE SERENDIPITY LETTER
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2016/05/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-301_3.html
THE BIKE RIDE - THE ROAD - ONE YEAR
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2016/07/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-363.html
SCHEDULING TIME TO OBSESS
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2016/01/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-198.html
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2016/06/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-350-year.html
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2016/11/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-500-number.html
NOT JUST GRIEF BOY
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2015/12/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-148-150.html
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2015/09/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-85-your.html
DAYS ALONE
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2015/11/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-144-days.html
LOL is not Laughing Out Loud
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2015/09/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-83-lol-not.html
DISBELIEF
http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2015/08/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-50.html
There's probably more that I could find, but this is a good collection. Not all of the entries are stunners, but I think it's a good list, and it probably pushes the boundaries of what defines "a few" links. :-)
Thanks for reading my blog! Leave a comment and prove you're a human. :-)
Mom at Dad's 50th birthday 1985 and - http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2015/08/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-50.html |
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Reflect and connect.
Have someone give you a kiss, and tell you that I love you, Mom.
I miss you so very much, Mom.
Talk to you tomorrow, Mom.
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- Days ago = 1002 days ago
- Bloggery committed by chris tower - 1804.01 - 10:10
NEW (written 1708.27) NOTE on time: I am now in the same time zone as Google! So, when I post at 10:10 a.m. PDT to coincide with the time of your death, Mom, I am now actually posting late, so it's really 1:10 p.m. EDT. But I will continue to use the time stamp of 10:10 a.m. to remember the time of your death, Mom. I know this only matters to me, and to you, Mom.
Mother's Day - 1984 and - http://sensedoubt.blogspot.com/2017/07/hey-mom-talking-to-my-mother-728-two.html |
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